Hi Pollyann,
It sounds like you might like to talk with someone who would understand what you are going through with your partner’s drinking.
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We provide support for people who are dealing with a loved one’s addiction. You could talk with one of our experienced volunteers which might help you to decide what to do next.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck.