[emily36]

My boyfriend has a problem with alcohol and drugs. I understand why it started but I don’t know how to help him. I’ve tried the soft approach, the direct approach, the angry approach but nothing seems to work. Sometimes he will admit he has a problem but when you try and engage him further he gets defensive and walks out. He is still relatively young but he is destroying his physical and mental health and I feel helpless. We don’t live together and we have a very on off relationship but he turns up at my house at daft o clock in the morning, doesn’t listen when I say I don’t want him to come round, disturbs my sleep when he turns up at daft o clock and I often can’t get back to sleep and today I couldn’t go to work due to the fact I had barely slept, he can’t hold a job down, promises me the world and constantly lets me down, doesn’t eat properly, he uses alcohol to run away from problems. The way he treats me has led to me having confidence issues and a feeling of worthlessness. I’m frightened that something is going to happen to him. I’ve known him for over 11 years so I know exactly the person he was before the alcohol and drugs were an issue. We have been back in each other’s life’s for two years and the lies that have come out f his mouth and his behaviour at times has been disgusting. I just want to help him and show him how different and good his life can be. My friends don’t understand yes they are there for me but they all just tell me to cut him out of my life. I just don’t know what to do

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