OMG, you have really been through it with both your husband and son. Like you said I think you have enabled but haven’t we all. I don’t want to go into my own personal details as I have done previous posts. However, I do feel that you have gone above an beyond for your son. Perhaps if you offer support in his sobriety. If it is any consolation my son has not been in touch since November until this morning and then it was not good. Also remember you are not in control of your son’s actions. You take care x