[hopeless78]

They don’t understand, after my husband tried to hang himself twice and set fire to him self one in just two days the ‘medical profession did nothing, just wait to his next appointment they said. I told them he wouldn’t be alive in a weeks time! ‘m lucky he is till here but the drinking still goes on and the help still isn’t there. The NHS isn’t up to the task and Private care is to expensive even if you can find someone to give you the time of day.

[crusha]

I am so sorry for your loss & I feel your pain as I am and have been going through it for years with my brother. He has been making some improvement then we get hit with a whopper lapse & he wrecks his life and takes his family down with him every time. If only he could stop the denial but he has been let down so many times with no outside support because when they are under the influence the services will not help!!!!!!!!!!!!!????

[ash]

Hopeless 78 sori 4 late reply I am sorry to hear about ur husband and I can’t even think how u must feeling. It’s very frustrating when u think, read and hear that there is help available…but wen u want the help the NHS just throb u off and not interested. U shud take this further otherwise they will keep getting away with it. Every hospital and clinics have PALS they will look at ur complaint and concerns and get u answers. Plse pursue this and if u r not happy with wot u have been told by the doctors ur entitled 2 a 2nd opinion. Please also let them know how shocked and disgusted with their lack of concern n help for such a serious health mental matter….Plse pursue your concerns and hopefully u will get the right help for ur husband and hopefully support for urself. Plse keep informed and I hope n pray ur husband gets medical help. ☺

[ash]

Crusha thank u….been thru wot u have and it ain’t easy n does get harder. Ur brother must feel judged and the constant negativity from others. People are quick to judge but don’t look deep within an alcoholic. Plse let him know he has u and u wana help and understand wot he feels…He won’t open up easily but he will and he just wants to feel loved for the man he is and not an alcoholic..I’ve experienced the disgusting lack of care of care by the gp, a/e, consultants and support workers who see alcholics has an addict n not seen has a person. Their attitude is disgraceful they don’t have a clue on how to speak, understand and look at the health issues caused by alcohol ie high BP, fits, liver cirrosis, pancreas inflamed, heps c, illusionations and many more. Please go online or Facebook and join this group Alcohol And Beyond u will hopefully get help from this site. I am taking my complaints further and won’t stop till alcoholics get treated n respected by the medical professions. I am doing a TV show with the Alcohol And Beyond Team sharing my experience and how theses doctors attitudes n lack of care n no empathy to Alcholics needs to be known n changed. Also it’s very easy to say to an alcoholic stop drinking but isn’t for an Alcoholic and they knw that don’t u think they tried. Only drink because their body needs the alcohol they don’t drink out of enjoyment. And I also think alcohol detox is not long enough this also needs to be looked at. Plse go on the site I have mentioned. I do feel ur brothers pain, urs and the family. In my thoughts xx

[icarus-trust]

Hi Ash
I’m so sorry for your loss and that you are angry about the level of support given to your brother. This must have been a really hard time for you.
The Icarus Trust is a charity that supports friends and families of those dealing with addictions. If you think it would help please contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

[ash]

Icarus Trust so sorry for late reply which i know why i havnt replied sooner.
All i want is help for alcoholics and for them to be treated like any other sick persons. I want families and friends to understand the help, support, how they feel and some one who listens, dnt judge them and see them has a lost course. Alcoholism is an illness and the suffering they go through physically and mentally only a person who has been there out of love and concern can relate to them. Its very very difficult for families and friend to see and yes we suffer also. Ive seen how my brother was treated by professional medical doctors, GP, consultants and support workers disgraceful and have not 1 mm of empathy very nasty. So i see it has them not being medically trained to deal with alcoholism or drug addiction. Because they dont bother or even think to check them properly and just give libruim take blood test and discharge. So many health issues and not even given end of life care plan.

I could go on and on.

Grieving Sister ????

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