Hi I’m new to this site and yesterday I left my home and my husband
he has always been a drinker but he has changed no longer cares if I am on my on every weekend it’s the same he gets up at 7am on Saturday has breakfast walks the dog then at 11am of he goes to a pub stays three hours then drives to the next one and stays until he is paralytic he walks home we’ll staggers then it’s every ten mins on toilet and banging and crashing around eventually falls asleep with his tv on loud all night as he says he can’t sleep without background noise Then Sunday he is up at 8am breakfast dog then back to pub at 11am until he decides to come home
I stopped making Sunday dinner as I found he couldn’t even eat it he was so drunk
and he has some sort of issue where he regurgitated mouthful of food constantly and has to vomit I believe this to be alcohol related he disagrees
I have tried talking nicely
I have tried explaining we can’t afford
i have cried begged and all I get is criticised he tells me I have to much time on my hands even though I work he has smashed items in my home but never ever hurt me physically
he has caused trouble at my grown up daughters house with her neighbour
he just doesn’t see the devastation he causes and doesn’t seem to care anyway
i love this man so much he was once a kind man and I felt loved now I feel so hurt so let down I have left and have moved in with my father
my husband has not rung me to see if I ok or anything
i cant eat sleep or get thoughts out of my head about what he is up to as I type
properly still at a bar why do I hurt so much when it’s him who has the problem
I am going to go to Alanon but really it should be him as he has the disease not me he just laughs in my face
his friends call him to go out and even if we had made plans to stay in if he would go ignoring my pleas
he says he loves me and hugged me before I drove away mi feel so lost
anyone else in this situation