[carlyq]

Hi. I’m not sure how long ago you posted this. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My mom is a heroin/meth/ anything else she can get her hands on addict. So I really understand. It’s so awful. While you’re waiting to get into rehab can you go to AA meetings?? Go to a meeting with her and have her tell them she needs a sponsor. They will set her up with a sponsor and then you will have someone to take some of that burden off of you!! The rationing is a good idea in theory but Al Anon and every therapist would tell you it’s a bad idea. You’re trying to control her addiction and it’s impossible. It’s also not healthy- look what it’s doing to you. And what is to stop her from getting more alcohol when you’re not around? I wish I had the answer because I’ve tried it all. I’ve cut her out of my life, I’ve screamed and cried and thrown things, I’ve begged, I’ve rationed her pills, I’ve had her arrested. None of it matters. Only she can make herself stop. Your mom needs to go to inpatient rehab, for at least 30 days. I know it’s not easy or cheap though. There are usually government funded ones, but they probably have a wait list. You could call and at least get the process started.

I would tell her that you will do all you can to help her until she gets into rehab and then she’s on her own. You have to get your life back. I’m so sorry that she’s putting you through this. I’m all alone in my situation too as there is no one else in my family that is willing to do anything for her and it’s so hard and so lonely. I will be praying for you and your family.

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