Hello, sorry I have a feeling this might be a long one but I’m in desperate need of some advice.
I love my Dad dearly and he has been an on-off heroin user for my whole life. Recently it got really bad, he was living with other addicts and spent around 60k on lots of different drugs. On Boxing Day he called for me to pick him up (which he never does) and I did and took him to my grandparents. He was so frail and clearly completely gone behind the eyes. My grandparents are obviously elderly and simply don’t understand addiction. He wants to get clean after having a bit of a health scare after contracting Hep C and seeing his kids while being so poorly (me and my brother are 27 and 26) I suggested he move in with me and access the resources near me and he’s been living here for 3 weeks completely clean. I live near Newcastle and he lives in a small town full of other addicts that he knows.
He relapsed on Thursday while I was at work by going back home and it was awful seeing him high as I haven’t before. He was so apologetic the next day but I haven’t coped well since. He hasn’t been anywhere so logically I don’t think he could be high but tonight he said he was going to have a nap and I sat downstairs sobbing. I don’t know how to deal with the anxiety. My palms are sweating, my heart is thumping in my ears and I’m constantly on edge and checking his van is still outside from out of my window in the night. I don’t want to tell him this because I don’t want him to feel like a burden because up until his relapse it was going so well. I suppose I’m just asking:
1. How do I deal with this anxiety?
2. What do I do if I suspect he is using? (ie if he seems high, do I have to do something about it?)
He literally doesn’t have anyone else or any place to go. He doesn’t have a place of his own and no partner/other family available. I’m not wanting to have him move out, I want to support him as best as I can but I feel like an idiot because I don’t know anything f about drugs or addiction and the anxiety and sheer panic I feel right now is just awful. Does it get better and do I get used to this?
Any advice at all would really help. I have signed up for a group for family of addicts that starts on Tuesday. Thanks so much in advance.