[addictedtosomething]

Hey Chu

First of all, the situation you’re in will be extremely stressful. Addiction is indeed an illness. I can attest to that. Whether it’s from pills, powders or liquids, it’s still an illness of the mind. You’re not alone. Many families throughout the country are going through the same thing.

Your father is your father, no matter what anyone says. He’s still your dad who you will love no matter what. That’s what makes it more painful. Your husband needs to be a little more thoughtful and understand the situation you’re in. Tell him: “Put yourself in my shoes, if it was your father”. Anyone can become an addict. It’s usually negative events or underlying mental health problems which lead us to escape reality. It can also become a routine addiction. Some people don’t even realize they’re doing it, because it just becomes a part of life.

What you need to maybe do is try to get your husband to support you in regards to your dad. If he’s on board it will make it much less stressful for you at home. Tell him how you feel, and that you’re seriously worried about your fathers’ health. Tell him you need his support so that you can attempt to get your father back on the straight and narrow.

It’s good that you’re on here instead of bottling it all up, which just makes it worse. I hope you find a solution so that your father gets the help he needs. You’re not alone.

Take Care

[icarus-trust]

Hi Chu,

Thank you for posting and sharing your story. I am so sorry to read how difficult your dad’s addiction has made life for you and that it is coming between you and both your mum and your husband. Clearly you have very mixed emotions about your dad that you might want to talk about to someone who would understand.

I work for a charity called Icarus Trust that provides support for people like you who are badly affected by the addiction of a family member. We have trained and experienced people that you could talk with in confidence, if you get in touch. Talking might help you to make sense of how you feel about your dad and what to do next.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the very best to you.

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