[icarus-trust]

Hi,

So sorry to read what you’re going through, especially stressful when you’re 8 months pregnant.

If you would like to talk with us at The Icarus Trust please get in touch. We are a charity that offers support to people dealing with a family member’s addiction. If you contact us you can be put in touch with one of our trained and experienced people. Talking with them might help you not to feel so alone and they will also tell you what other help is available.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best. Take care of yourself.

[biscuit122]

Hello thank you Icarus i will contact you in a couple of days x

[stemgirl]

Hi there,

I feel for you so deeply.

My partner sits up drinking alone all night and does coke on his own on the sly. I had to walk out due to the stress and anxiety making me very ill.

He says it’s me who has changed and that he is fine, doesn’t have a problem even though he can’t go three days without drugs and alcohol. He is short with his kids, tired, lazy and grumpy because of withdrawal or hangovers constantly.

He has turned on me making me the enemy and bringing up the couple of times I’ve had one or two beers or when I used to do a bit of coke myself to deflect.

It is so, so hard and I’m sorry you are going through this.

On a positive note, he has acknowledged at least once that there is an issue. Getting over that denial is a huge step. If it is addiction backslides may occur. I hope he gets some professional help and I hope you can take good care of yourself too as that is so important. You are not alone! X

[biscuit122]

Hiya stemgirl, sorry just seen these replies. So i was 35weeks two days ago and since my post he hadn’t raken any as i told him i had asked his mum to cime down to tell her but i didnt end up telling her due to her auntie passing away and then her step dad has just passed away aswell but because he has done it again tonight I’ve told him he has left me no option but to tell her. I feel for you too. They always deflect in situations like this. I told him theres nothing more i can do for him, if I’ve kept it to myself, doesnt work. If j took his cards he would only get it on tick so doesn’t work. We have his mums step dads funeral monday and then I’m going to tell her about him tuesday. I just had my carpets cleaned for the baby coming so they are all hygeinic and its on the carpet tonight. Fully lost my rag!! He says he’s done well because it’s been 3 weeks and that he’s had a hard week. Honestly the baby isn’t even here yet if he thinks life is hard now he is going to get a shock. Ive lots of nieces and nephews I’ve got a slight idea how bad its going to be but he hasn’t.

Are you feeling better with your stress and anxiety since you have walked out? Has it made him wake up and realise at all? Have you tried speaking to anyone in his family about it? Its so frustrating. Hope your doing okay and thank you for replying to me xx

[cardiffbluebird]

This sounds awful. I’m sorry for your situation. I think you are right to tell his mum though as I think it brings it home sometimes for people when they can’t keep it a secret. Try and avoid the stress as much as you can, it can’t be easy. stress is no good when you’re pregnant (i’m convinced it’s why we had our 2nd baby 10 weeks early).

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