[worriedron]

Not sure how to start this but here it goes.

My partner of 8 years who has always liked a drink but it is now becoming a big problem in our family. We have a 5 year old boy who has disability which my partner is his career. She has told me recently that she has never really come to terms with his disability albeit a minor disability and that’s why she drinks. My problem is that I tackle her drunk ness with anger and resentment towards her but all I want to do deep down is to help. How do I help her and how do I help myself with this issue? She is a loving and caring women until she has drink in her. She knows she has a problem but can’t really come to terms with it. I’m not sure really if it is the drink that is the main problem or her deep depression!! It’s extremely difficult as I work 10/11 hours a day and she works school hours at our sons school, so a lot of the time by the time I get home she has already had a drink and lying about it.

[kez09]

I too need the same help. My partner is alcoholic and I work also and have 2 children and am holding everything together for everyone. He is in process of getting support and help but I just can’t seem to find help and support for myself. I feel at breaking point. Just wondering if you can ever get past all the lies and hurt that’s been caused and how you actually move forward. I love him and as in your situation when sober is a complete total different person.

[worriedron]

It’s so hard I’m now waiting for an ambulance due to the fact that she wouldn’t accept my help! I think she had been drinking whilst working and had to bought home by a co worker not making any sense in what she was saying, banging her head on the wall and just being horrible! It could be her deep depression I just don’t know! But after speaking to Nhs direct and a doctor it was my last resort to get the help she needs today!

[worriedron]

It’s so hard I’m now waiting for an ambulance due to the fact that she wouldn’t accept my help! I think she had been drinking whilst working and had to bought home by a co worker not making any sense in what she was saying, banging her head on the wall and just being horrible! It could be her deep depression I just don’t know! But after speaking to Nhs direct and a doctor it was my last resort to get the help she needs today!

[kez09]

I am so sorry to hear this. I do hope the ambulance service helped. Unfortunately they only except help when they want it. You can’t make them. I thought my partner hadn’t been drinking for a few months and we were getting there but have found out he has been drinking secretly I am gutted. I feel I am a mug for believing things were gonna be different. How is there a way through all the lies. When I don’t believe a work he says ?

[kez09]

I meant to say my partner suffers with depression and anxiety and for years has made out he drinks because out that. But it’s turns out he gets that because of the drink . It’s so hard

[worriedron]

Unfortunately had to cancel the ambulance after waiting for 5 hours! So we start again with a appointment with the gp. Fingers crossed she gets the help that she needs today.

[kez09]

My partners Dr put him on a detox while awaiting an app with local turning point service. There is a 6 week wait . The waiting without not alot of support is very hard.

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