[help-me]

Hi all,

Will keep it brief. I feel so alone and have been supporting my addict husband for 8 years. Did not know the extent of his addiction until the night of our wedding when he left me for 3 hours to go and score. I have begged, screamed, shouted and enabled him. I am at the end of my breaking point. He has changed me as a person and still I remain. Can’t talk to friends about the true extent of the problems. Sometimes I feel like killing myself. Not looking for answers just an undetstanding

[trainer28]

I understand unfortunately. I am so sorry to read that you’re in this lonely situation, I know how isolating it can be. My health has deteriorated terribly since living with the stress and sadness of my partner being an addict. I have done all the shouting and screaming too. I have even thought about dying too. I think that is normal when the pain is too much.

He is under a drugs and alcohol service now and hasn’t had alcohol since last year, which wasn’t the ‘main’ problem anyway. He is on a replacement drug now but even though he tries to hide it I know he still wants the high and can sometimes get it from adding pain medication that he has. The way he acts and looks sometimes makes me hate him even though I’m trying to be supportive.

Talking to people about it helps, I have a couple of friends who listen. Also, I have contacted the charity Icarus (Googled it) and they have offered support for me.

I am out today (because I try to get out when I can) but I will try and message this evening if you reply to me.

Does he know he has a problem?

[danman83]

Whats he an addict of?

[icarus-trust]

Hello,

Thanks for sharing your story and I’m sorry that things are so bad for you.

Please try and get some help for yourself. You could contact us at The Icarus Trust as we are a charity that offers support to people who are dealing with the addiction of a partner. We have people you could talk with who would understand what you are going through. Talking with them might help you and also they would let you know what other support is out there.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

I really hope you can get some help. Good luck.

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