Partner of a codeine addict

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    • June 8, 2019 at 5:18 am #5278
      bi67
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      Hi All, I’m partner to a person who has recently physically withdrawn from codeine via an NHS detox programme that he started about 6 months ago. He had his last prescribed codeine substitute through the withdrawal programme about 2 weeks ago and then went cold turkey.

      He’s always had substance abuse problems (eg drinking lots when things are difficult). I also discovered a few days ago he’s been having an affair for the last 6 months. He is refusing to end it despite the devastating effect it has had on me and it will have on our 2 young children. He is also refusing to accept that we could have a good relationship because he says he is fundamentally unhappy with me. We sought counselling last night and the counsellor believes he is in the deep throes of addiction and is only thinking about himself. But that is just one person’s view (and one he is unlikely to accept).

      I am so confused about whether the addiction is effecting his views or his refusal to want to try to make our relationship work is because, as he says, he is thinking the clearest he has since he started taking codeine 5 years ago. It’s hard to understand the effects of the codeine/addiction now he’s “detoxed”. Is he still likely to be behaving like an addict etc.

      Appreciate there’s a lot more detail required to be able to give any specific advice probably but has anyone been through something similar? For example, how long after coming off the codeine did you/your loved one feel clear headed again?

    • June 9, 2019 at 12:09 pm #12707
      icarus-trust
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      HI,

      Thanks for posting. I work for a charity called the Icarus Trust that you might find helpful to contact.

      We provide support for people living with the impact of a partner’s addiction. We have trained and experienced people you could talk with who would try to help you to answer some of your questions.

      You can contact The Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

      All the best.

      • June 9, 2019 at 12:52 pm #12710
        bi67
        Participant

        Thank you. I sent an email last night.

    • June 11, 2019 at 10:58 am #12766
      icarus-trust
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      That’s good to know.

      Hope you find it helpful.

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