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I am 21 years old and my dad is on drugs. He is an EXTREMELY intelligent man but for the last 2-3 years or so he has turned to cocaine, meth, and god knows what else. This is due to , at least what I think, his mid life crisis and business struggles. He recently sent an email to our whole family admitting that he does. What makes me sad is that he blames ME especially as well as my mom for his addiction. Anytime we try to talk to him, even calmly, he yells and walks out of the house. I live in Canada now and he is still in the US. He always tells me to come to him but I want to live in Canada because personally I see my future here…and I believe that I should stand on my own two feet If I want to help him get back on his and that I need to be around positivity so I at leastcan live a positive life. My family (not including my mom) calls it selfish of me, but I think its best for the long run. What do you think? Should I be there with him and my mom and little brother? Or get settled in my life here in Canada (making frequent visits to them of course), because I know that only he HIMSELF can fix his problem and not me. Do I owe that to myself? I mean Im so negative around him! I dont want to be a negative dad one day either. In addition, next week, my family including me are all going over to discuss this issue with him and to convince him to go to rehab. Is anger is very very bad btw. My question to everyone is what should I do in this situation. He doesnt even talk to anyone and thinks of us as idiots. Should have the doctors forefully take him or what? So my two main questions are…..1)Should I continue living a positive life in Canada making frequent visits to my family? AND 2) What should we do about my dad? Please help someone, I need it.

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