[icarus-trust]

Hi
Thank you for posting and sharing your concern aboput your mum’s drinking.
I know you have spoken to your dad but if you don’t have any one else to share your worry with please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for people affected by other people’s drinking or drug use. We have people you could talk with in confidence, who would understand how you are feeling. This is a free service.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
I hope that this helps.

[zen84]

My mum does this too and it worries me. My dad died over a year ago and she lives in another country and I know she drinks a lot because of the messages I receive. She denies it though. And when she stays with me she often sneaks alcohol. She also has anxiety and sleep issues probably stemming from my dad’s death.

[keiron]

Hi. My mum has been doing this for the entire 35 years that I’ve been alive and can remember it from as early on as I can remember. She will actually avoid/decline alcohol in public so it never fitted with alcoholism that you see on TV. Your dad is right, occasional drinking is nothing to worry about but that’s not what’s going on here. The secrecy shows that your mother is ashamed of her actions. Shame comes from knowing you’re doing something you shouldn’t be. I’d love to give you some really helpful advice but I’ve not found a solution for my mother in 35 years. Your mother needs to acknowledge her problem first. You could try letting her know that you’re aware of the situation and will be there to support her if she wants to get help, but her shame may mean she’ll just feel uncomfortable talking to you.

I suppose what I’m trying to say is only she can tackle this issue, but I don’t think you’re over-reacting.

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