[danman83]

Hope your alright.. but all this wont stop until he wants to quit cannabis.. i was having it up until i was 19.. and i hated the stuff in the end..it ruined my education at school, and i still regret it now. And im 36 now.

Id sit him down and ask him does he want to quit? If he does.. then great. And theres lots of ways how to.. Id explain how i did it, but its long and i dont want to type it all out now if he doesnt.

If he doesnt.. then you have one decision to make.. stay with him.. take the shit and financial crap… or leave and start a fresh and have some money for you and your son and eventually meet someone who will make you happy.

If he is not willing to try his best to stop, do you really want to keep putting up with this.??

[missb9115]

He says he wants to quit, he goes a week without it then he has a breakdown and goes back to it or says just a little and it gets more and more until he’s back on £30 a day, it’s been 7 years now and he said he was doing it way before that, the drs have tried putting him on medication, he won’t go to meetings as says it’s a waste of time so running out of options. We argue every day and every time he gets it it’s “the last time” but we just go round in circles. It’s getting to the point where it’s affecting my mental health and making me really stressed everyone in my family have told me to leave so I’m stuck in the middle and my son adores him so I don’t want to leave unless I have to but running out of options he’s 27 now I can’t see him ever gonna be able to stop

[missb9115]

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[danman83]

Does he smoke aswell? I never have smoked.. just was weed. So i always thought i was just addicted to the nicotine.. but ill never know i guess.. but i do think it was the weed i was addicted to.

When i stopped i wanted to go in the army.. so that was my aim.. i had to have a drug test in 8 month.. so my aim was to train and stay clean.. it was hard i lapsed.. but i got a calander and ticked each day off i was clean… i got there in the end.

So.. i think he needs a goal.. something to aim for.. if hes doing 1 week… tell him go for 2 weeks.. and the cravings will get less and less. Tell him to get some new hobbies, and do a day to day plan of something he never does to keep him occupied.. gym…walks.. if hes spending £20 a day.. tell him lets just save it up and take your little boy somewere nice.

Some people just get stuck in a rut, and its hard to get out of it and they get worried whats beyond the wall if you get me. But its all good. They just need to want it and believe in themselfs

[missb9115]

Yes he smokes aswell, his goals were before baby was born, before baby was one, before we moved into a new home etc but they never last he give gives up too easily, he even says he is prepared to move out over it but I’ll get him to try that thankyou

[danman83]

To be honest they are stupid goals and same like ways of dragging it out if you ask me. He needs weekly or daily goals. When he wakes up he needs to tell himself, he is going to stay clean for today and today only.. baby steps.. im trying to quit coke now and im having it once a month and im doing my best to stop. Ive took up reading to keep me busy. Im in the gym twice a day 6 times a week. I bought a safe and my gf locks my phone away sometimes for me if i feel like getting coke..

Are u buying his weed or him?

[danman83]

Whats his situation like now?

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