[concerned-mum]

Hi…Stay strong and dont do it….I know its horrible and as a mother they make us feel as guilty as hell but you know yourself if you do pay for it now you are going to keep on there will always be something..

My son did exactly the same to me has bled me dry of money…To the point he was evicted and ended up on street until he was rehoused he begged me to pay for bed and breakfast for him. I said no he had had money to pay for it himself and decided to blow it…..I could nt sleep was worried to death what would happen but knew I had to be cruel to be kind…You know what….he survived it has his own flat is practically kitted out again and I have had three weeks without any abuse or asking for money. Im not saying he is clean but he knows not to ask me anymore….What happens if you just cant afford to do it? Cant raise the money from anywhere? overdrawn….credit cards maxed out…you would have to say no…..He will get to work if he really wants to he will find a way. Like they find a way of getting other stuff they REALLY want….Tell him to get his mates to drop him off and pick him up…..DONT GIVE IN…..youll keep on doing it…..Take care big hugs xxxxx

[cant-take-no-more]

Hey hunni’s hope your both ok. So he managed to get another job, and wants you to pay so he can use his car..well there are buses, cab’s, trains his legs……sorry but I know from reading what he has put you through, and by bailing him out again, you will be enabling him….Tell him he will have to deal with this one himself, and save the money from his wages to pay for it…..I totally agree with concerned mum…..we have to stop giving in cause we feel its duty to help out……Stay strong…. xxx

[sad-and-tired]

Do you know at this moment in time I am so angry with him. I saw him today with the friend he is staying with and I was so shocked at how bad his friend looked, not so much my son as I see him so maybe don’t notice. My poor daughter has just been pestered by him ringing over and over until she has gone out and given him a lift and petrol (his car ran out) his tax is out tomorrow, insurance will be cancelled in five days and car finance are chasing him. He has asked me for the money I have said no.. it sounds awful but at this moment I don’t want to see him again, he is bleeding me dry. He has ruined his own life and doesn’t care who else goes down with him.

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