[asadmum]

All of the stories I’ve heard from you on the forum have been incredibly difficult and resonate with our family too. I will try to place myself at the top of the pile as I cannot allow this to kill me off too, though some days it’s a struggle to get through the day without worrying what the hell is going off or what is going to happen. I can’t begin to tell you how invaluable all of your stories have been. May we all receive some peace and better times sooner rather than later ❤️

[asadmum]

I’m hoping I can get him to some kind of counselling. He kind of admits a lot then retracts it all and makes up another story. I am not sure if he will ever just tell the truth that’s what makes me think he can’t turn it around. I do need to sort myself as I’m suffering very badly at the moment. My poor husband puts up with my moods aswell and he’s going through the same thing. I pray you have more than another three good months … that’s a positive step forward for sure. I keep my fingers crossed for you all ❤️

[asadmum]

Oh my goodness, I don’t feel like such a loner after all. Thank you for sharing your story, you are all incredibly compassionate people considering what we are going through/have been through. We haven’t loaned him much money and I’m yet to find out if he owes anyone else at the moment. Me and my husband cut off when we found out that this had not stopped fully. Only a few months ago… after doing so well. Then really relapsed last night and nearly ended up killing himself… he’s back home with us now and not with his friends… I’m praying for a miracle and the right advice… which I’m getting here and I thank you ???? I’ll wait for the miracle just for now xx

[asadmum]

Congratulations and well done on your efforts, I pray everyday my 20 yr sees the light soon enough… we have all been to hell and are still currently there! I have found this very encouraging to read after such a long road for you. Keep up the efforts ???? keep well and safe

[asadmum]

I don’t know where to start really I have a 20yr old son who’s apparently had an unhealthy habit for drugs and alcohol for quite some years. My son started going out into the town drinking before he was of age sneaking around with his friends and getting absolutely ratfaced, me and my husband let things go a few times but then we started to turn corners with him and he backed off from going out as much as he was living with us. Then at 18 things went really south and he started going out drinking and seeing some so called friends, ones he hadn’t originally started off with but apparently so it seems now had the same interest as him (cocaine and alcohol) the alarm bells were ringing even at that point, especially when they would do all day benders and he’d come back relatively sober and sometimes not smelling like much alcohol at all, to looking like he’d had a skin and very agitated and aggressive to some respect. I wanted to believe he didn’t do that not my son who’s so loveable and friendly (when sober and not uti) He’d had a long term girlfriend who had known about this issue for some time but had not made us aware of the situation as both my parents were undergoing cancer treatment at the time and my grandmother had just passed away. Things were already strained for us all. Even my eldest son knew of this habit that was forming and never thought to make us aware, although my husband said he could just tell it wasn’t just alcohol. He had said to us he wanted to change and didn’t want to do this anymore, which I believed, and I also believed that he could just kick the habit of socially taking cocaine to just having a drink but most of the time they now seem to have been very much a dual habit… unfortunately my sons gf couldn’t carry on as they were and they both parted ways… very sad in itself, but then he lost total control and lost his job form where he’d worked from school, to trying to pull money in from anywhere he could.. but the pandemic things cooled off and he was becoming more like himself again calm happy and great fun to be around… now things are lifting again and he’s already left our house to live with two of his better friends, but we have caught him trying to drive while he’s intoxicated and uti …. the panic dread fear have taken hold of me so much right now,I’m holding myself responsible for not getting him the help that he needed before… he said he didn’t want intervention etc… and he wants to move back home again to sort his life out…I am petrified to be honest he’s so unpredictable it scares the hell out of me…but can’t help but blame myself…. I don’t know which way to turn we have lent money to him believing it was for food/ insurance/ rent etc now I know I have just enabled all what I didn’t want too I am at my wits end…

[asadmum]

I can very much sympathise with what your going through, I find I’m a softer person more so than my husband even though he loves our son as much as me. I’m the one that’s spun a web of lies and have been falling for it. As a mother no matter what age I can’t switch off, maybe I need to try a little more.

Sending peace to you

[asadmum]

I’m finding it so difficult to even write this but sometimes I just don’t wanna cope anymore. I’ve nearly lost both parents recently to cancer. I can just find no strength at all. He manage also like you said for roughly around a year which was brilliant but then friends started to creep in and get the fun friend that will do anything back into their lives and he thinks they really are his friends which is so sad ???? xx

[asadmum]

Thank you so much xx

[asadmum]

I’m finding it so difficult to even write this but sometimes I just don’t wanna cope anymore. I’ve nearly lost both parents recently to cancer. I can just find no strength at all. He manage also like you said for roughly around a year which was brilliant but then friends started to creep in and get the fun friend that will do anything back into their lives and he thinks they really are his friends which is so sad ???? xx

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[asadmum]

I don’t know how to share my story

[asadmum]

Thank you so much I do feel very alone and to blame. But my eldest son says he will only stop when he wants to stop. And his relationship has suffered with him an awful lot. I often think I’m of no use at all. How could all of this have happened ???? I’m so sorry to hear what your going through also it’s such a waste of life there’s so much they are missing out on by surrendering themselves to this. Sending love

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