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bt1978Participant
Ha….
Well I’m not sure what the issue you are experiencing is, but guess it’s a partner who drinks?
Often it doesn’t agree with people and changes them somewhat
bt1978ParticipantFor zoom you can just log in and remain off cam. If anyone asks you can just say you are new and that’s it, you are under no obligation to talk or participate unless you want to of course. My advice is do a few and sit and listen, try not to judge (it’s hard at first) and hopefully you can identify with what you hear. It’s always good to be around people the same as you.
I don’t subscribe to just one method, I thee everything at it, AA, counselling, trauma work – all sorts. Its your life at the end of the day and it’s worth something!
bt1978ParticipantOK sure.
When I stopped drinking, 12 years ago, I did so with the help of AA. That helped me understand why I drank, that I didn’t need to drink again, and how I could sort my life out and live going forward. I also did alot of counselling for trauma and abuse from childhood too.
There are a ton of AA meetings online at the moment, you need a zoom account and can log in and just listen. I found it super helpful to be around people that had been where I was and sorted themselves out.
It’s not for everyone mind, but we’ll worth a shot.
Take things a day at a time, I know you said you have a ton of stuff to sort out which is great, just focus on one thing at a time.
You can definitely stop drinking and sort it all out, I know this as I have done it (and with other substances)
bt1978ParticipantMy advice is learn to stop the drinking first, then deal with the u see lying issues if you can. There are a number of ways to do this if you are interested?
bt1978ParticipantIt’s a good point well made, u less they admit its an issue there is very little you can do to help aside from monitor and watch consumption. You can contact their gp direct, but you may feel that woukd cause further problems between you two.
It’s really hard to give any advice to people who are not ready to admit they have an issue – it just doesn’t stick
Also when I was abusing painkillers I put on an awful lot. Of weight too for various reasons
bt1978ParticipantHey mand
Welcome and thanks for sharing
That’s alot you have going on there.
I’m assuming you want to quit drinking and straighten out?
bt1978ParticipantHi
Welcome and thanks for posting.
It reads very much to me like your partner is addicted to them unfortunately. This is because co codamaol contains codeine, which is highly addictive as its an opiate. It can make you sleepy, and also lethargic.
The vomiting may be where he has run out and gone into withdrawal, it’s hard to say really.
Sadly some doctors do write prescription after prescription.
My suggestions are that he contacts the GP and has a tapering plan sorted out ASAP as this will only end up one way. Its also likely that if he stops, then he is going to feel rotten due to the amount he’s been taking over time. That’s why a taper plan is essential.
I have been through codeine addiction myself, let me know if there is anything I can help with and keep posting
bt1978ParticipantHey
That’s a tough gig, well done for posting.
Firstly you need support yourself if you are to get to grips with this, the forum is a good place to start.
Can I ask what pills she is taking
bt1978ParticipantNo problem feel free to share
bt1978ParticipantHi chelsie. Is he working a 12 step programme?
bt1978ParticipantHey nanny
That does indeed sound like withdrawal… Depends how much and how often they have been smoking it in that month
It sounds like your friend is dope sick unfortunately
bt1978ParticipantFire away… and welcome
bt1978ParticipantHey Harley
Firstly you are really brave for sharing, and also I’m so sorry to read what you wrote that’s awful.
There are alot of string women on here in the same boat but at different stages, I’m hoping one can support you.
I’m a recon bering alcoholic and addict and have been where your son is. It’s possible to recover and rebuild, but something has to change in him to get there – usually a rock bottom or simply sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Grief is an awful thing to experience, but thinking about is logical as you have lost. Child at the moment – to addiction.
Getting sectioned is extremely tough in today’s world.
Do you think there is any remote chance he wants help? I’m worried about his son being around him in that state too
The suggestion about cutting ties with addicts is all good and well, but never that easy in real life especially if it’s a loved one. It reads as you are in this for the long haul so I suggest you get help and support whenever you can, it will help to get identification from people in the same boat.
bt1978ParticipantIt’s positive, but be very careful and cautious. In terms of recovering from addiction this is intensive care. He will need to fill up the time and get to work in himself as soon as he is well enough. Good nutrition and exercise are also key
bt1978ParticipantOh boy.
The good news is that it hasn’t been years of abuse, but the bad news is he is certainly going through withdrawal of some degree.
Typically I’d say two weeks until you start to feel some sort of normality, maybe longer if he mixed benzos in there.
I should caveat that with two weeks for the physical side of withdrawals. After that is the mental side, which frankly was even more horrible. So that is anxiety, insomnia, depression and such. The good news is that if he isn’t using you can at least get through to him and work with him to get better at least
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