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Hiya, hope you are OK. Im 3 month clean from coke today. I’ve been addicted for 11 year or 12. I can go on all day about it but I’ll try and keep it short.
You can be addicted to coke just having it once a month for years. As you still go back to it. Mine was every week. Or every few week. Some times once a month. U don’t have to be using everyday to be an addict.
I’ve tried quitting for the last 5 to 6 years I think. I tried everything. Hypnotist, I’ve cut all my mates off, come off social media, delete dealers numbers. But I finally joined cocaine anonymous in Dec and I’ve been clean since. I’ve never felt happier.
Anyways.. It sounds like he’s gone worse by using it in the house. That’s what happened to me. Is he drinking in the week. Alcohol is the main trigger to get coke. I can have 1 sip and I’m on the phone to my dealer.
Plus he needs to want to quit for himself. You can give him ultimatums but when his addiction kicks in he will go to coke. He needs to want to quit and get a good support network, and get rid of everyone to do with coke in his life. When coke wears off you go on a downer for days feeling depressed and suicidal.
Just have a quiet word with him and see what he says. Feel free to ask me anything
You have done well just to stop like that. Multi vitamins is good. You need to stock up on these, especially amino acids and gaba, to rebalanced your dopamine levels. You have done everything I preach about, but it wasn’t enough for me so I joined the meetings on boxing day. And it’s helping me so much. Well done mate. I’m happy for you ????????
Running is good for your health and releases endorphins which makes you happy. I was in the same situation with my ex, 4 year I wasn’t allowed to do nothing. I wasn’t even allowed to watch films over PG rating! Or watch TV on my own. Long story. Had no mates.
It’s hard when its like this you think that there is nothing else out there or better. But there is! You will get what you deserve it just takes time. Just don’t ever go back if he’s controlling you. Just start planning your future now ???????? thanks for that ????
I’ll be honest it’s not good him doing that when your mum put up 7k, and then missing for 3days.
You are best off out of there. He needs to get help and admit he has a problem otherwise you are just going to be in this vicious circle for the rest of your life.
But just do what you feel is right. Have u any kids?
Why does she hide him?
Just hide your car keys lol
Why would he blame u for going a friends house?
Your right it’s not your fault. Us addicts blame partners and familys and everyday life on using. But it’s just part of the addiction/disease, its just an excuse to keep using. It’s called emotional relapse. It’s just an excuse to go and take the stuff. It’s all out faults. We dont go blaming asda for selling me whiskey lol. It’s my own choice at the end of the day. I wouldn’t beat yourself up over it.
What is his mum like with him? Wraps him in cotton wool?
I’ve seen heard so many stories from people from the meetings and on here, were they have gone missing for days. Just in coke. Mine was just over one night. I could never go into the nxt day. May be a few times when I split up from my gf. It’s mad how this things grips people for days like this. I had a fear of being dumped and kicked out, plus my kids seeing me this bad so I always stopped the next day.
I can imagine what people were saying about it. What he got up to. I did some stupid things that I don’t want to say on here. But no one is laughing at you,and if there is, rise above it, your better than this. It’s his loss. It is true that time is a great healer, so surround yourself with people that love and care for you. Do some new activities or something to keep your mind busy. Don’t ever go back there. Some people do. But life will get a lot better for you. It will just take time ❤️????
Hope your OK it does make you do seedy things coke with the dating apps and that, plus with him dissapering your going to think the worse case scenario. You will start to feel better with time, and realise you have made the right decision ????
You have done your best anyway, and like you said if he wants the help he will come to you.
Its upsetting seeing people in the meetings who have relapsed after months clean. You can tell they want it. There is quite a few young girls with kids took off them and are doing there best to quit, so they can get them back. It really does grip u addiction. My partner just tells me.. Just say no to it Dan lol. She still says it now. But everyone is different and she still don’t get it. I’ll let you get some rest. Have a good sleep mate ????
You have done your best anyway, and like you said if he wants the help he will come to you.
Its upsetting seeing people in the meetings who have relapsed after months clean. You can tell they want it. There is quite a few young girls with kids took off them and are doing there best to quit, so they can get them back. It really does grip u addiction. My partner just tells me.. Just say no to it Dan lol. She still says it now. But everyone is different and she still don’t get it. I’ll let you get some rest. Have a good sleep mate ????
I know what u mean. I was gutted for years when my 1st love dumped me. Its not a good feeling at all and I just went off the rails for a few year when I was 18.
I spoke for 2 mins last night in a meeting lol. I’m getting a bit better. I seriously hate stuff like this. I’ve always said ill never get married because I have to do a speech. I probably would get my mum to do it at the side of me while I hold her hand ????
I know what u mean. I was gutted for years when my 1st love dumped me. Its not a good feeling at all and I just went off the rails for a few year when I was 18.
I spoke for 2 mins last night in a meeting lol. I’m getting a bit better. I seriously hate stuff like this. I’ve always said ill never get married because I have to do a speech. I probably would get my mum to do it at the side of me while I hold her hand ????
Well done buddy!! I’m 3 month clean this Friday from coke. I joined CA eventually after always saying I’ll never go. How did u go it mate??
Do you still get cravings?
It’s true what they say about some people don’t know how good they had it – until its gone. You will get there in the end. ????
The next time you go on a date or meet someone. Get them to fill in a questionnaire in.. 1st question.. Do you take coke? 2nd. Are you prepared to take regular drug test?, ???? that would be much easier for the future ????
It’s true what they say about some people don’t know how good they had it – until its gone. You will get there in the end. ????
The next time you go on a date or meet someone. Get them to fill in a questionnaire in.. 1st question.. Do you take coke? 2nd. Are you prepared to take regular drug test?, ???? that would be much easier for the future ????
James your on your bad come down when u have had enough and want to do things like this at 4am.then the next day u think fuk it. That’s your addictive brain not wanting to quit. So don’t go through with it. You just have to be more determined to quit and fight the urges.
I always said I’d never go CA but I did and I’m 3month clean in 5 days.
Download zoom, and go on CA website and look up meetings u can do them in your area or anywhere online. There will be face to face 1s when lockdown lover with. Which I’ve not done. Where are u from mate?
So join the meeting there are diff times. And just listen the 1st few meetings. If u want to introduce yourself you can. And tell them why your there. That’s up 2 u. They say just listen 1st. And you will here others with the same story as you, and your not alone. Then u get a sponsor. Some one who has worked the steps and they show u.
You are recommended to pray and meditate each day. Praying doesnt have to be God. It can be a higher power. Anything you want. Mine is the universe, positive energy, like the law of attraction, treat people well, u get treated well back.
So plz don’t be put off by this. Listen if praying for 1 min a day, to stop feeling suicidal and depressed and skint. I’ll do it any day of the week.
It’s hard, u get peoples numbers from the meeting and we text each other every morning, just saying hello have a good day. Make a phone call at night. You have to phone your sponsor every day. Tell him how you are. Honest mate it helps so much. But it depends how bad you want it. Plus delete all dealers nums and so on.