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He’s right about he can just get it another way. But it’s about planning ahead and cutting these many ways out to less as possible.
I tend to use Fri and Sat’s. So I’d give my gf my Car keys and phone and she locks them in a safe. Every Fri and Sat. She hasn’t for a while now. But I have no dealers nums on this phone or social media. I can’t drink alcohol ever again as this is a main trigger to have coke.
When we make up excuses for things, it’s just our addictive brains planning a relapse. Our brains will start an argument with our partner a day before we plan to use, just so we can say our partner stressed me out and caused me to use. This is just an example, but something in the week we can do and it’s the brain just setting us up for a relapse because it wants the coke. It’s like a devil on your shoulder.
Where did he go for 4 days?
It really is a vicious circle. Friday or Sat we use, Sunday to Wed we’re feeling down and not gonna use again. Friday comes we want to get on it again. It’s never ending.
There is support out there it’s just how bad he wants it. I like the meetings, and listening to the story’s. But I just hate speaking. Only spoke a few times and this puts people off.
Don’t worry about the long message. Lol
Hiya hope your OK. I’m 10 weeks clean today from cocaine. I’m 37 aswell and I’ve been using 11 years. You can use coke once a month and still be addicted.
If he’s been using 20 years, he is definitely addicted. You don’t have to be using everyday.
He will regret it afterwoods because it sends you depressed and suicidal for days after using.
Cocaine uses all your dopamine levels up in your brain and that’s why u come crashing down.
If he wants to stop, he needs to want to stop for himself not because u want him to. He needs to delete all dealers numbers, friends and family who use. Even get a new number. Come off all social media as you can message dealers on there.
I joined CA anonymous in Dec and I’ve been clean since its helped me so much. Would he join and go to meetings?
No it doesn’t sound awful at all. Your just in a crappy situation and proves addiction effects loved ones as well. Love does hurt don’t it. And because you have known each other so long I bet it hurts more watching him like this. I’ve been on loads of meetings recently were women had their kids took off them because of coke addiction. Some had got their kids back. But they chose coke over their own kids. It’s heart breaking what it does to people. This obviously isn’t him. But I think he does need get some meetings in and get some peoples numbers.
Have a good weekend mate ????????????
If u got to the CA website. They have online zoom meetings. You can do the ones in your area or any. I always said I would never go to CA as I hate speaking in public and the god aspect of it all. But I did 2month ago and am feeling great. Its not all about god. You can have your own higher power. And you swap nums with other addicts and you text or talk each day to them and your sponsor. Honestly it helps so much. But u also have to delete all dealers nums, come off social media if you can, because u can message dealers on there. I had to stop because of the downers for days and feeling suicidal. It’s not worth it one bit. Just ay the tape through and tell your self do u want to feel shit in the morning.. You did well before mate. Just keep going and don’t give up. What made you want to use again?
I’ve just no time at all to do that at the mo. Plus im afraid if one of the kids see it lol.
You need try and get some sleep you will just make your self worse. If he was gone last time for 2 month and nothing from him that says it all. Just try and spend some time with some friends and keep your self busy.
I seriously can not wait till this lock down is over. I’ve missed the gym. And the ice cream parlour ????
It’s OK now. But even my gf says when I’m at my mum and dad’s now I’m still scared of him. And I’m like a little boy near him lol.
I’d love write a book. Just have to leave some things out haha
Hiya mate I’m 2month clean now. You did well for to stop that long. How did you do it?
I’ve just joined CA. Have u been?
I was thinking doing a journal. I’ve just read Matthew mcconaugheys book and he did that. Another great book to read lol. I defo will keep you updated! I’m on here everyday. I’ve got to keep my day busy with daily task. This being one of them. So my mind stays occupied. I listen to some good podcast as well. You seem really nice, your partner needs put some effort in with you lol. What’s your name? And thanks again ????
Good luck with the psychology course. Life is about learning and having fun so I hope it all goes well. Ive not come out the other side just yet but I’m more prepared. I’ve just done my step 4 with my sponsor. I don’t know if you know much about it. But there are 12 steps we do. And step 4 is resentments. We have to let them go so I’ve had to write alot of resentments from my past. A lot of this is due to people using, and we need to let go of it. Soo… I have a lot of resentment to my dad., he screamed at me so much as a kid and put me down, I’ll be here all day if I go into detail. So I’ve just gone through them with my sponsor, he says your not at fault for it and ect.. Just move on from it. Its because we can hold on to these and causes us to use. It’s quite good really and makes sense. A bit like councilling. Sorry for going on haha.
Thanks for your comment. It really helps me. ????????
3 times lol imlve never read a book more than once. But I tell you what is a great book I’ve just read.. Many lives many masters. Have you read it? It’s all true and todo with a high up physician in America. Who does past life regression and stumbled upon some interesting things.
I know where you mean. Least there is always somewhere eat at dinner lol. I’ve read quite a few true story books from the addicts view and family’s. They are really gripping, and a lot of the addicts turned out to be successful, even millionaires lol.
Thanks for your lovely comments ????????
Lucky get. I’ve always wanted do that and ski.
Ahh I think it’s defo changed since then haha. Have u been chill factor skiing?
Am always here anyway if u want to talk ????
No way did you. Is it any good?
Where do you work or did u work?
How are you coping now? Are you still with him?
No way did you. Is it any good?
Where do you work or did u work?
How are you coping now? Are you still with him?
No way did you. Is it any good?
Where do you work or did u work?
How are you coping now? Are you still with him?