[danman83]

I asked what time because, its 7.30am and he most probably was on coke and been up all night.. and hes coming down off it and hes thinking hes had enough so leave him alone till hes sorted.. thats what im thinking.. but dont take my word for it.. if he never texts you and then out of blue u get one early morning at the weekend..hes most likely been off his head on a come down..feeling guilty.

I text my mum about 5am crying my eyes out coming down off cocaine and asked for help.. but i could be wrong. I dont think its that other i was on about.

But , ye … had a good time at ikea lol

Just let him try doing what hes doing.

Text him if u want but dont mention drugs or anything like that. Just ask hows he doing.. and you try and focus on your job.. im only giving u ideas. Its entirely up to you what you do. Is he your only child?

[danman83]

Ive only just seen this sorry

[danman83]

Can i ask what time he text??? I think hes locking him self away from people till hes off coke or what ever drug hes on.and sorting himself. Thats only thing i can think off.

But tbh i really dont know.. it could be summat else but i dnt want say. But he did say he will have contact with the outside would when its over. I really dnt know tho.. can u not check on him..

And thanks , ive been ikea for a family day lol

[danman83]

Jen heres my num just send a text if u need someone to talk to , as you cant tell people close to you. [number removed].

And im sorry about your husband. I totally understand were your coming from. Ive always said i wouldnt make my kids homeless no matter what.

Do you think hes like this because his dads passed away and its something deep down? Does he want to quit? He must see your hurting? I feel like coming down and tell him to sort his head out lol

[danman83]

I appreciate that and i will thanks.. so how do you want to move forward? Are you still together? Does he still want to use or quit?

[danman83]

I dont get why people take ketermine. Kids at my sons school take it.but hes

Not allowed to go anywere near them.

Just let your steam off on here if you are struggling. There are some really nice and decent women on here. Am sure they would swap numbers and talk to you and vice versa. Thats how this all works for addicts. To talk to someone with there problems. And i guess its the same for people who have a loved one needing help and the family member.

[danman83]

Can i save your num and come aswell? Hahah ojkin..

But being serious , im so sorry about your daughter. I can tell you have been through a lot. And to lose your husband like this. Its not good at all.

I hope you do find peace and move on and be happy. But avoid coke heads lol

[danman83]

Sorry for the questions just trying get a better understanding.

Bloody hell.. he must of had a lot to lose his bladder. Would you let him live with you to get help?

Tell him download the app.. pocket rehab its great. And its were all addicts get together online and talk about there problems and ex addicts support other people

He obviously wants to quit or is telling you. But he now needs to cut everyone off apart from close family.. are these people in his house share taking stuff aswell?? Because he wont get off it if they are.. hope your ok anyway

[danman83]

Well your in the right place here for help, support and guidance.

Am a bit lost on the damage your talking about.. what damage has he done or being done??

Is he on cocaine as well?

For a start he needs to delete everyone he knows who sell drugs, or take them out of his phone. Delete his fb account.

Is he working? Does he live on his own? Kids? Gf?

[danman83]

I am so sorry to hear this it ruins people lifes, did he pass away? Its not good seeing it all happen again with your son. No mum should witness this, and i feel sorry for what ive put my mun through. But im on the mend now. And instead of getting coke, tonight i am reading my 1st stephen king book lol. Im a couple of pages in and im already glued and excited.

Whats the situation now with your son? Is he getting help

And thank you so much for you kind words x

[danman83]

Well maybe you should just leave him to it then. And just dont mention drugs. It looks like hes going to have to hit rock bottom to realise he needs help.

Which in a good way helps. As a mother its not good on your health so i hope it all gets sorted for you.

Thanks for your kind words. Have a good weekend too.x

[danman83]

How old is he? I think you need to keep reasuuring him he can stop it.. is he getting help?

And like you say, make sure hes adamant that he wants to stop. Because you dont want to be the only one trying.. is he having it everyday?

[danman83]

Hes taking a shit load by sounds of it. He must have some cash. Him having his own place , he wont cut down if anything he will just get more.

And she must be having it with him..what sort of girl would want to flat or house share with a 42 year old.. unless she is seeing him.. or hes supplying free coke . Your best off out of there hun

[danman83]

I think you need to move on.. how the hell has he got on to a 22year old girl anyway to share a place with? Cutting down is no good. And what vitamins make you put on weight?? He sounds like hes on another planet.

[danman83]

Hi claire im 5 week clean from coke today.. the main thing is.. has he admitted he has a problem and does he want to quit??

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