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Februarymarie, my Son told me tonight that he just needs a break for a while, I’m like have you ever thought that I need a break, they really don’t get it.
Enjoy your rest.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Bump,
Thinking of you, sounds like my life at the moment, my Son also relapsed this weekend, it’s a never ending nightmare. He’s gone to stay with his Daughters Mum for a few nights, I am enjoying the peace and quiet.
It’s good to be able to come here and get it off our chest.
Take care of yourself, hope he comes home and is ok.
Dx
Hi Catcull,
Welcome to the Forum where you will find many stories similar to your own, myself included.
If you have a look at the Theresa thread you will find lots of Mums with Sons who are addicts, some are doing well, others not so good, but as you know this is a very long journey, and it’s like living in hell.
Your Son will only do things to rectify his addiction when he is ready.
There are CA and NA meetings on line and depending on where you are some face to face meetings are now open, through these meetings he will meet people who are all in the same boat, he could get himself a sponsor and start working the 12 step programme, which I think really helps them, if they want to get clean and sober.
Please keep in touch on here and try to have time for yourself, which I know is very hard to do. Nobody judges on here and it’s a great place to be able to share your story.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Jen,
Can you tell me the name of the book, think I would like to read it.
Hope you are ok. I’m afraid that I have had enough of addiction at the moment and I am just going to have a bit of time for myself, as you know it’s very wearing and sometimes enough is enough.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Kikkiclark,
Welcome to the Forum. Your story is so similar to my own, except it’s my Son, and it’s like living in hell with them. All the lies, the money they waste is untrue, feeling sorry for themselves, the list goes on and on.
My son went to rehab twice, I wish he could of gone for 6 months but unfortunately I’m not a millionaire, as you know it’s very expensive. Rehab gives them the tools to try and go back out into the outside world and put those tools into practice, but I think they give up too easily. I think it’s all about choices, making the right ones instead of choosing the easy route which just leads to destruction of them and us, and there is only so much people can take.
I think you have done the right thing by leaving, especially as you have your Son to think of.
Stay strong and there is always someone to chat to on here. So glad I found Adfam.
Take care and just think about you and your Son.
Dx
Hi Bump,
I hope your Son has woke up feeling positive today.
My Son also had a drink last night and I didn’t ask if anything else had been taken. He’s up and down the stairs all night having a cigarette, going to the loo and just generally being a pain in the arse, then gets up this morning expecting everything to be ok. I am so tired of this life with an addict. If I could see him trying I wouldn’t mind, but I’m seeing no effort at all at the moment.
After 7 months your Son would know that he felt better, I really hope that he gets back on track today for you and your family.
Dx
Hi 68862,
Your words are so true and describe my son to a tee. Immature and acts like a toddler. Then the next day they are happy and wonder why you are not the same, it really is very wearing.
And yes being brutally honest about being our flesh and blood, I feel the same and wish that he was not an addict so we could all live a normal life, whatever that might be like.
Thinking of everyone on here that is having a hard time at the moment.
Dx
Hi Bump,
Think there must be something in the air at the moment, my Son has been very strange this week and I cannot put my finger on it at all. He has not had any alcohol, and I can usually tell if he has had drugs, he hasn’t been angry and been quite pleasant, which makes a nice change, but still a bit strange.
Like your Son blaming you, mine always does the same, and we know it is not us.
Did he continue to drink the wine?
It is very hard to live with, you never know what mood they are going to be in.
I sometimes ask myself the same question about when will it all end, and I sometimes think never, and that’s an awful thought.
I hope you have a good weekend and you know we are always here to chat.
Dx
Glad everything went well with your move Dan, enjoy making it yours, look after yourself and take care x
Dx
Hi Ivy,
Thinking of you and your Son at this sad time, hope all will be ok.
Sending prayers and hugs.
Dx
Hi Februarymarie,
Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts, it is so very hard at times.
Take care.
Dx
Hi Lindyloo,
I feel exactly the same if I dare to say he is doing well, it’s not daft.
Great to see Dan back on line, he’s such a good person to chat too.
Sending hugs back.
Dx
Hi Lindyloo,
Glad to hear your Son is doing well, pleased for you and him.
I really believe that going to meetings and getting a sponsor to do the steps with is the right way forward.
Good to hear from Danman83 too.
Take care Lindyloo.
Dx
Hi Danman83,
Been thinking of you and wondering how you were, it’s good to know your back, and doing all the things you need to do.
My Son has also had a few wobbles in the last few months, and his Mental Health has been terrible, but he is going to face to face meetings and getting himself a Sponsor, so moving in the right direction.
Keep going, one day at a time, take care.
Dx
Hi All,
I for one am fed up to the back teeth of bloody Addiction, it brings nothing but heartbreak and stress. I know it’s an illness, but I also think it’s about making choices too.
I get told all the time that “I don’t understand”, of course I don’t, but I do try and support him the best I can, but last night cold stone sober and no drugs he was vile and I am not being spoken to like that by anyone, and today he expects me to be normal and asks what’s wrong, I really don’t know if I can do this anymore, as you all know it’s very wearing.
I should be enjoying life not thinking can I go out and leave him on his own, it’s pathetic.
Sorry to rant, but I know this is the place that I can and won’t be judged because you all understand.
Like others have said it is hard sometimes to sit down and write on here, but thank god we have Adfam.
Take care everyone.
Dx