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Your not alone . I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 years and he is addicted to cocaine. He too has stolen money out my purse and bank cards so I have to hide them. I spent a week away at my sisters to get away from it all came back to find hes sold the TV, laptop and other stuff. Found out yesterday that the rent hasn’t been paid and he doest seem to care. I’ve tried to support him but he has lied so much that I can’t take it anymore. We’ve ended up in so much debt that I think its now time to go our separate ways. I always worried that if I left he would end up on the street but no realised if that happens it won’t be my fault. One thing I’ve learnt is you can’t depend on them for anything
Its normal. My boyfriend has been addicted to coke for 6 years and has had times where he stayed clean for 5 weeks and then relapses. Even when clean I would have the fear everytime he went out everytime he got a text. I’m suspicious all the time. It’s not easy living an addict as you really hope they will sort themselves out but they wont until they want to and are ready.
Since his relapse has he stopped again or carried on drinking. I heard that there can be a few relapses on the way to recovery. It’s what he does after that matters. I know how you feel my partner has been addicted to coke for over 5 years and a few times he has stayed clean for 5 weeks then relapses. The first time I was devastated and didn’t understand why he slipped but it only takes one trigger. Is he still going to AA?
You are doing the right thing your daughter must come first. If she is scared when he drinks then that’s quite damaging. Your husband wont stop until he really wants to. I know you must be worrying that if you leave he will get worse trust me I’ve been there. When someone is an addict then their substance whatever it is will be the most important thing in their live and they will carry on no matter who they hurt.
You do have to think of your kids. Until she admits she has a problem and wants the help then she wont stop. Having an addict in the family is really hard but you need to look after yourself and your kids
I feel your pain my boyfriend has been addicted to coke for 5 years and its hell watching him destroy himself. The truth is an addict wont seek help until they realise they have a problem and want the help. Have you spoken to a doctor. I can’t really offer much advise but you need to look after yourself as hard as that sounds.
I’m in the same situation my boyfriend has been addicted to coke for 5 years. Just tonight he has been paid and he has just left the house to get some. He says he wants to stop but he doesn’t seem to want to take the next step. Your boyfriend wont start to stop until he admits he has a problem and wants to. My boyfriend has cut out alcohol as that’s the a trigger and it would bring on an anxiety attack but as soon as he gets some money something takes over. It’s hard but you have to try and not enable him as it wont help. While you help him he has no reason to stop.
I agree you need to leave. If he is violent while on drugs he could do worse next time . He wont seek help until he admits he has a problem and wants to stop. My boyfriend has been addicted to coke for about 5 years he is trying to stop but it’s not going to be easy. He has stopped drinking and that has improved things as he was horrible when he had used and drank. Luckily we don’t have kids but u need to leave for their sake as well as yours
Hi ginger
You haven’t failed
I’m in a similar situation my boyfriend is addicted to coke and he lies and manipulates me all the time. One minute he will say he has had enough and will do something about it but the very next day he is back doing it again .yesterday I came back from seeing my dad who is sick to find he has pawned my laptop for drugs. I am so angry at him. My only advice is to try looking after yourself easier said an done I know but going out with friends will help take your mind off of what’s going on. I’ve learnt that they will only get help when they fully admit they have a problem and really want to quit. Trying to make them get help wont work in the long run . Just know that your not on your own
Reading your post I though I could have written it as that’s exactly what I’ve been through. My boyfriends is getting better stopped drinking as it a massive trigger. It’s still going to be a long road to recovery. You have done enough in fact you have done too much. He went start to stop until he admits to himself he has a problem and wants the help. The only advice I can give is try to look after yourself
Your fears are justified. My partner has been addicted to coke for 4 years and the fear doesn’t get easier. Until he realises he has a problem he won’t stop. My partner has realised and is trying but it’s a uphill battle. I don’t think he fully understands the pain he has put me through. I know this doesn’t really help but I wanted you to know you’re not alone
Hi I know what you are going through my partner has been addicted to cocaine for about 4 years he has admitted that he has a problem and is now trying to get clean but it’s still a struggle. Your son won’t get help until he realises he has an addiction and needs help. I can’t really give advice but try to get out and find things for you as it’s good to get some relief from whats going on. Try not to give him money which I know is hard when they are begging. I hope your son realises that he has a problem and gets the help he needs
I really feel for you. My partner of 7 years has been addicted to cocaine for about 3/5 years he once went 5 weeks clean but when he had a bad day went back to it. He says he really wants to stop and gets suicidal but he doesn’t seem to deal with stress well at all. Last year I broke down and told his family at first they were trying to support him and get him help but they have now given up. There are sometimes when I feel so skin. I can’t really offer any advice but I know what you are going through
I know how you feel my partner has sought help after 4 years and I’m trying to be supportive as I know it’s a long journey. Problem is I am a bit resentful about the stress he has put me through. Friends have been good but they don’t really understand. The only advise I can give is try to do things for yourself, and take a break from it all. You are not alone.
I know how you feel my only advice is to take a day at a time.