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Hi Lisa, my son starting smoking cannabis at school. He then progressed to cocaine and has been taking it for the past 10 years. It has ruined his relationships, his family and children. If I had known then what I know now about taking cannabis I would have really taken it more seriously and cracked down on him.
Hi Danman, further down the line have you ever thought about being a drug counsellor or sponsor . . .
Hi Alan, my son started off taking cannabis. I don’t think it was every night. He is now 32 and has been taking cocaine for the last 10 years. He has 2 failed relationships and 2 children that he doesn’t see. He had a trade since he was 16 and was earning money, however for the last year he hasn’t worked. What I am trying to say is that if you don’t address this now your son could be like mine in 14 years time. You need to clamp down on him now before it escalates. I would say take Danman’s advice. Good luck x
Hoping you are still doing good – working and staying clean. Just checking in with you and reminding you to stay strong.
Thanks for your thoughts and prayers xx. You keep the communication with your son going and keep encouraging him. Hopefully he will take the right steps to get himself clean. In my texts I told my son I loved him and wanted him back but he never responded.
To all you mums, I’ve read all your posts and feel for you all. ButtonBoy when I have researched it does say that there will be relapses and it’s how they react to them i.e. If they can admit to it and then get themselves back on track with their abstinence. Your son has admitted and seems genuinely sorry so encourage him to get back on track. Paula I hope your son continues with his staying clean. Lime, I feel for you too. If it’s any consolation at least you are all in contact with your sons and able to communicate with them. In the past we have been involved in our son’s attempts to get clean, however he never went as far as following the 12 step programme or going to rehab or CA. He has been taking cocaine for approx 10 years, aged 32, 2 failed relationships and a child with each. As I have posted before we helped him sell his house before xmas and he got a large amount of money. He owes us and a family member a lot of money. Since then he has almost cut us off completely, we have not seen him and he doesn’t speak to us but occasionally responds to the numerous texts we send. Last week he said he would be away and cut off from the outside world for a week until it’s all over!! We have been at our wits ends all week wondering exactly what he meant. I have been texting his gf to ask if he is ok and she just says ‘he’s not too bad’. He has told her not to give us any more information. Like you all have said some days I can be crying all day and other days I am planning my son’s funeral. Thinking of you all and wishfully hoping all our son’s get better xx
So sorry to read about your daughter’s addiction. I too wish there was a magic wand that you could wave. It’s so sad that your daughter has been taken away from you through her addiction. What a fantastic thing you are doing taking on the care of your grand children. Is there any way that she would consider rehab or any form of drug therapy. You and your husband must be very strong to deal with this together. Your last statement really shows your despair and is so sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you both x
Hi, I have posted before about my son’s addiction which is similar to your son. I will try to summarise. He is 32 and been addicted to cocaine for approx 10 years. He has 2 failed relationships and one child with each. Over the past 2 years he has become worse. He no longer works. We recently helped him sell his house before it got repossessed. He received a large amount of money from the house in November 18. Since then we have not seen my son and he does not answer is phone and rarely responds to any texts. He has also not seen his kids since then but has said he missed them. He lives with his gf in a flat and we can’t get access as the door is coded. We have been in contact with his gf but she gives us very little info. I have been at my wits end worried about his health and what he looks like. Last week he text my husband to say he is going away for a week, no contact with the outside world until it’s all over. We have been thinking all sorts about what he meant. I have been texting his gf to ask if he is ok and she replied that he is ok, nothing else. Despite all our offers of support he has refused our help. I just wish he would let us help him. Like yourself we are desperate and hope he will try to stop.
No I don’t think it’s that either. You too x
Hi Claire, if he says he wants to quit then there should be local drug support agencies that he can contact and needs to. You have to think of yourself and your children. What about your parents? Could they give you support?
Yes definitely, chins up xx
OMG, you have really been through it with both your husband and son. Like you said I think you have enabled but haven’t we all. I don’t want to go into my own personal details as I have done previous posts. However, I do feel that you have gone above an beyond for your son. Perhaps if you offer support in his sobriety. If it is any consolation my son has not been in touch since November until this morning and then it was not good. Also remember you are not in control of your son’s actions. You take care x
Hi, I am happy to set up a what’s app Group but not sure I am the best member as I am a 58 yr old parent and feel you would be better with the ‘young ones’ who are more in the know x. By young ones I mean 30 ur old somethings!!
Elaine, I wish you all the best in your new life xx
Really appreciate your comments from someone who I feel has been in a similar situation to my son. It just worries me that he doesn’t want our support despite us always being there in the past for him. His previous and present partners have both said that he has ‘issues’ but when we have asked they don’t give us any other info. I would like to know what the other thing you were thinking it could be. Thanks for the suggestions. I have another son who is 3 yrs older, separated, new partner, 5 yr old son. He has had to take a back seat but knows the score. We see him either once, twice a week. My other son lives in the same area but even when he was with his family we hardly saw him. We would invite him to sunday dinner, summer barbeques but he would always have a reason why he was busy. We also see his kids as they are our granc children. So hard when they ask have you seen daddy, especially the 10 yr old, as she knows about the drugs. It heartbreaking and we really struggle at times with what to say.
Anyway are you off to Sunday mass tomorrow or is that a step too far x. Perhaps a little prayer to say thanks and I’m doing ok.