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You say you haven’t caught him yet, but you don’t need to physically catch him, the signs are so clear, here’s what to look out for.
Talking none stop about anything and everything with over enthusiasm and over the top.
Talking to anyone and everyone.
Over confidence
Not eating on a night out
Frequent trips to the bathroom
Being able to drink lots of alcohol and still seem relatively sober.
Sex lasting forever!! ( its harder to come whilst on gear)
Walking up aggressive and nasty first thing, then eating everything in site.
Sudden lack of funds
Secret phone calls or text followed by a trip outside to the ‘bin’
These are all clear signs ofcocaine use xx
Hope this helpsxx
I agree, it’s so sad x I left our family home with our 2 children 2 years ago now and still he’s off his head constantly, but now it’s my fault for leaving him ??
I can read from your post that he has played the usual addict card by telling you it’s your fault and your wrong for what your saying to him! And even bringing it up as an issue. Get out of there, he’s manipulating, controlling and twisting everything you say and worst of all, making you question yourself!!
It’ll only get worse x run for the hills xx
I also left, and also suffered numbness of fingers, swollen joints etc. Palindromic rheumatism and carpal tunnel x I know it’s brought on by stress as when I was at home with him I suffered with some kind of joint pain everyday, when I left it went, yet when I had to have something to do with him it came back with avenganse x
Horrendous the effects it has on your health c
He now buys £120 a day and our house is up for sale to beat the banks taking it from us x I’ve just spent 3 days and nights solid cleaning his shit up to get it on the market.
I can’t dwell on it anymore, the mani loved has gone. And who is now breaks my heart.
So my advice just leave x you’ll never get him back and the longer you stay the more he’ll damage you. You’ll never recover from relentless abuse. So get out before it’s too late xx
You’re story is mirror image of my marriage. We met 2004 married 2007 and have two children now 11 and 10.
He was the love of my life x the connection we had was more than anyone could understand x I worshipped him x in the first couple of years we would do coke every couple of weeks or so and go clubbing and go to Ibiza 3 short breaks a year to go mad x then we got married and had kids and for me that wasn’t what I wanted to do anymore x he’d say I was boring now I was a mum and he was upset that the kids were my priority. About a year on, I’d noticed our disconnect and he was distant and going about his own business, he said it was cos he needed to earn more as the kids cost more. Though it turns out he had been doing coke on a daily basis, he started putting his money in business account instead of joint, he cancelled direct debits and stopped paying bills. I didn’t click on this for a good 3 years, then I found empty bags in his van and his work areas, he tried to deny it but didn’t have a leg to stand on, I trusted him so never had reason to question him or cheque accounts, he’d been spending £200- £300 a week on it and cancelled all my direct debits to cover it. Getting me in debt.
Even though I’d caught him out he swore he’d stopped but never did!
I left him2 years ago, me and kids left the family home whilst he stayed, living there like a down and out. He hasn’t paid the mortgage in 15 months forcing the bank to apply for repossession!! Yet it’s still all my fault for leaving him as he can’t cope in his own.
I lost my soul mate, the love of my life to cocaine. He’s now an evil, selfish, vindictive, spiteful shell of a man. He’s a completely different person who has no feelings for anyone but himself. Trying to get through to him and try support him results in him telling me what a bad person I am, bad mother, greedy for wanting maintenance and need to see a doctor as I’m crazy for saying he’s a cocaine addict x I love him so much but he’s gone. The coke has got him and we’ll never get him back xc