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In reality probably not
They live a whole other life you will never know the whole truth about
If they admitted the real truth you would flip your lid totally and end it
Whilst they are off in their chaotic cycle you are at home keeping the stability going so they have a base to come back to sleep it off eat reload cash and begin again
I honestly honestly tell you to cut him lose and walk away
If it was a good relationship you wouldn’t even be questioning anything or his actions and it won’t get any better that I can guarantee you
You could spend decades in this cycle he will let you continue as long as you keep taking it
People have decades of heartache
Time is a healer
Give yourself a chance it will get better
Don’t feel disloyal people make there own choices
If your girlfriend wants to change she will but you have to be realistic and know that it may not happen
He shouts you down because he doesn’t want to answer your questions because you will catch him out
He will lie and not remember his answer
If he had to be sectioned he’s a very heavy user that has probably used for a long time
Crack usually involves using some kind of downer drugs like smoking heroin at the end or taking Valium or pregablin to help the come down crash
Very rarely will it be just crack
End it and move on.
Hard as it is do it for your own mental health
Walk away and don’t look back.
Sunny77 is ???? right in everything she has said
You will never get the answers you are looking for
Cut him off and be strong
So how’s it going my friend ?
What’s been happening?
Change your number and move on.
You will never get thanks or answers for all that you have done and put up with.
The more you put up with the worse it gets
Manipulation is the key tool of an addict and you have had it used on you in and now out of the relationship both ways just to benefit his drug use; never to do anything for your benefit.
His parents will protect him that’s there problem if they don’t want address it properly
Cry, grieve get angry but don’t go back
Honestly hold your head up you have done nothing wrong but fall in love with someone who only has eyes for his addiction and will do anything to protect her.
You don’t need to prove yourself
Good times are around the corner just go for it
What the hell have you got to stay for?
You say your little boy is oblivious; I can promise you he isn’t and the longer it goes on the more normal it will become.
imagine the horror of finding him foil or needle in hand in a few years time
Hard as it is You need to step away and if he really wants to stop that might be his turning point
It’s really up to you if it changes and what you want from life for you and your son
He has his own decisions and choices to make and so far addiction has ruled the journey
You have given up your family to be with him but he hasn’t repaid you by quitting and giving you the life you deserve yet
Addicts are unfortunately so selfish with money and manipulation it’s mind bending and soul destroying
He has OD on you that’s horrific enough for you to deal with
There has to come a turning point
you have stepped away; keep walking away from it all
life with an addict is; absolute chaotic negative misery.
You will begin to remember who ‘you’ are, and the weight will lift.
You don’t have to feel guilty because it is not your fault.
You won’t get the answers you need from it all
he has made his choice
Life is so short and precious
Don’t let it ruin one more day of your life!
Be happy and laugh everyday, that’s the best addiction ~ an addiction to life
It’s horrific how far reaching the ripple affects of their decisions in addiction spreads through families
It wrecks everything and everybody involved
In time once the legal stuff is done you will get the PEACE and happiness you deserve
The more time passes the more distance you will get from him
It’s so good you have made those boundaries and are sticking to them
I know how hard that is and you should be proud of yourself
It is heartbreaking to lose someone you love to addiction but you have done the right thing for you and your child
I am sure it’s not what you signed up for and not the path you want your child to think is normal and end up on
I applaud your strength as hard as it is you have done the right thing
Try to look forward now to the future
All storms Pass X
At the end of any relationship it’s bad, but with addiction mixed In its horrific; there are so many unanswered questions
Even though you make the decision it’s like you have been pushed to it. They have chosen Drugs over you so you feel rejected
In twenty years you will bump into him on the high street and chances are he will still be making the same choice but you will have moved moved on and had a happy life
You can’t – that’s a decision that they have to make
You are right breaking up is so hard because there are so many mixed emotions
You have to remember why you made the decision and if things were right you wouldn’t even have thought about leaving
Addiction brings its own personal relationship that at first you are the wingman then you become the enemy
It’s completely the worst thing to go
It feels so selfish to put yourself first but that’s what you must do to get through this
My story is so similar to yours
Previous violent marriage which he rescued me from and was the most amazing man in the universe
BUT he hid his cocaine habit then once we got married, it spiralled out of control big time
Life was awful
I was broken mentally and emotionally
do not put yourself through it
Walk away and save yourself
set a time limit in your own head say 3 months and if nothing has changed get out whilst you still have your sanity and freedom