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Your story is a similar one to mine , in fact I was reading it thinking wow this is my life. I understand what you’re going through, the pain and the helplessness. Please remember to look after yourself . I say this as I’m crying because my husband has been drinking and been horrible to me an hour ago. Only they can decide to change. You have to make sure you are ok. My husband has not spoken to me for 3 days because he got blind drunk, smashed a glass across the kitchen and punched the wall , and I think is so embarrassed by it that he doesn’t know what to say. I feel desperately sorry for him and for your partner as we stay with them because we like the sober half. Please stay safe xx
Hi it’s positive at least that your partner went to NA. Hopefully they will be able to improve over time. I am having similar problems myself. No amount of talking, crying or apathy is helping. I’m also at a standstill, and I would desperately love a family, but that’s out of the question. I hope the fact there are others on here In the same situation is a comfort to you .
It’s comforting to know there are people going through similar issues, as it’s such a lonely thing to experience , especially if like me you don’t want to share the burden with friends and family. We are due to be going on holiday tomorrow but he’s just told me to go alone because I’m selfish. I am the most un-selfish person you could meet ( sounds arrogant and I am really not ! ) so for him to say that devastates me. I know it’s the drink talking, but it’s impossible not to be upset. Sending love to everyone xxx
The Icarus trust I think can support you. I have emailed them and someone is getting back to me about my husbands drinking problem. I know how it feels to feel like you are alone and you don’t want to share any of the burden with anyone. Maybe try talking to someone about how YOU feel. Focus on how you are feeling now. I hope this helps. This chat service has helped me with my own husbands problem. Take care
My husband drinks as a result of feeling lonely when i am out or when he is bored. Maybe encourage a new hobby or going out more to do different things that maybe they enjoyed in the past? It certainly helps me and my husband. Take care . You’re not alone and I know how awful it can be to try and help when they don’t feel like they need it .
I understand where you are coming from I have similar issues with my husband. He also doesn’t see the harm in driving once having a drink, I’ve taken the car keys from him and threatened to phone the police and he gives me a lot of verbal aggressive behaviour Back. I don’t know what the best thing for you is , but know you’re not alone in this situation. There are lots of others having the same problem.
I understand a lot of what you are feeling. You are not alone, which i am finding comfort in. My husband ( and we’ve only been married 8 months ) is also a wonderful guy when sober but when drunk he’s nasty , aggressive and forgets what he has said and wonders why I’ve been crying. I can’t answer whether you should leave him as I am currently at that point myself and don’t know the answer either , but please know you aren’t the only person going through this and it’s not your fault
I have a similar situation as some of above. My husband is the most caring person when sober , but after drinking he’s horrible and has said things that still hurt me today from months ago. I am at a loss as what to do also, so you aren’t alone