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Hi all .

I am a sister who’s brother has been using herion for over 25yrs . My mum is 75 and has reached her limit of mentally being able to deal with it and wanting to deal with it . We lost my dad 5yrs ago .

My brother is 55 & has nothing but the clothes on his back after splitting up with his girlfriend ( who also uses ) .

The problem is we have been enabling his addiction / behaviours for so many years . He’s done rehab / 12 steps & says it’s no good & off he pops and does it his own way until it goes wrong .. & then back to the family for money … but at no point for he take responsibility for his recovery .. he is currrently self detoxing somewhere – we don’t know where & actually wish not to know . The lies / stories are ridiculous it’s like being in a Jeremy Kyle show . Currently I’m lying in bed at this moment with anxiety about him turning up here and having to cal the police to get him removed . At the end of the day he is my brother & my mums son – very difficult to deal with .

I met with the owner of a community rehab today who said that my brother will only ask for help when he’s ready & he has to hit the bottom . My brother has been rock bottom many times – homeless / streets of Blackpool . You name it he’s done it . If we continue to give him £10 here £20 there we only enable it further and prolong the inevitable – his death or recovery .

My brothers mind is irrational and trying to talk to him is impossible – he has no interest in repeating the rehab or the 12 step programme as he says it’s doesn’t work for him .

The owner of the rehab thought that actually I needed to also reach out for support because I am asi now starting to struggle and need to be strong for my mum !!!

Advice / thoughts welcome … ????????

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