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To be perfectly honest with you I would imagine it’s actually more draining for the family and friends of the addicts because the addict who is still using a substance will (in my experiences and opinion) feel almost refreshed once they have the drugs they want/need and okay I know it all starts again once they have used it all but the family and friends don’t get that feeling of the pressure being off. I really hope that makes some sense.

I’m glad to hear you’ve got yourself a lovely little flat and I hope you are going to be happy living there.

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Hi Billie,

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I am a recovering addict and I am happy to try and answer any questions you may have about am addicts behaviour etc. Although I obviously cannot speak for your partner the pattern of behaviour of the vast majority of addicts is in my experiences very similar so please feel free to ask any questions you may want an answer to and I’ll do my best to answer them for you

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I’m sure you will all agree with me when I say that the battle with addiction is draining and at times demoralising. There is no escape from the internal turmoil but finding something to focus on has been crucial for change. It sounds like you have all had a testing few weeks too.

[jaynhissay]

Good afternoon ladies I’m sorry I haven’t been able to keep up with the forum. I hope you are all doing as well as possible

[jaynhissay]

I hope you are all okay I’m going to read the posts I’ve missed out on for the last few weeks.

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Hi Coco hi liberty

I’m sorry I haven’t been able to keep up with the forum as I haven’t had a smartphone for a number of weeks.

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Hi coco

I’ve just read your latest post and I would like to let you know that I am absolutely staggered by the courage your showing to be able to put some distance between the two of you. I don’t know how someone who smokes crack can mistake heroin for crack. They are different colours to start with, and unless he smokes heroin on a pipe like the crack which is the only real way of mixing the 2 things up as people who smoke heroin usually do so from a piece of tin foil and if that’s the first time he’s smoked heroin he would of been as sick as a dog. I’m sorry I know it’s not anything to do with me really but ????????‍♂️ it’s more lies in the hope that bullshit baffles brains and I think you have a right to know. I wish you all the very best and I hope your courage can be passed on to the people who are needing a bit at the moment

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Wow that’s a scary amount of pills to be taking. Relapse is something that will always be in the background of my life it’s something that I am always conscious of. What do you find triggers you to use again or do you use so you don’t feel the withdrawal

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Hi Noami,

I have an endless amount of empathy for the situation that you are in and have just detailed in your post.

You have come to the right place for support and somewhere to be able to vent your frustrations and emotions. There is a lot of ladies that are in the same or similar circumstances to those that you find yourself in. I don’t know if you have already but I think having a read through some of the other posts may be beneficial for you.

I personally was on the flip side of the coin. It was me that was the addict and I have tried to contribute to some of the other posts by trying to answer some of the questions people had but using my experiences of active addiction.

It’s so important that you look after yourself and your children whilst your having to go through this

I wish you all the very best and I’m sure you will get a few more replies from the others who can offer you some advice.

Take care

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Hi liberty,

I did manage to get through the time I was having the bad cravings thanks. I am with my son this weekend so that’s why I’ve been a bit quiet on here but I will come back on the forum a little later on to answer your questions about the feeling things again.

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Hi Blouise,

im sorry to hear about the struggles with your son at the moment. There is a lot of mums on this forum that are in similar situations and are very supportive. I am an addict and currently still smoke cannabis as it helps with keeping me away from everything else.

Is your son smoking weed everyday? If he is, can he afford to buy it daily on the wage of a part time job? I dont mean in anyway to scare you but teenagers that smoke weed are exactly the type of person drug dealers are looking to recruit to do their dirty work. Like i say my intention isnt to scare you but just to make you aware (if you werent already).

im sure some of the mums on here will reply to your post with some mother to mother advice if theres anything i can try and give you an insight into from a users perspective that you could use when you are able to speak with him then im more than happy to answer any questions.

I wish you all the best.

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Liberty, when you said his son gives him some do you mean he gives him crack or weed? Im having a difficult night tonight its like the part of my brain that cravings come from is screaming at me with a megaphone. Ive just got back from a long fast power walk to try and help. Do your partners ever get the intense cravings and manage to fend them off?

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Hi there blue

I’m sorry to hear of the struggles your facing currently. There is lots of mum’s in the same situation on this forum.

I find myself on the other side, I too am 34 and an addict. In answer to your question from my own experiences of active addiction and being bailed out by my mum on countless occasions you have to refuse to keep paying her drug debt because if she knows there is someone who is going to pay it is like a green light for an addict. Especially someone who can be manipulated emotionally. I know that sounds horrible but it’s the reality. At times during my using I would say I was being threatened and that I needed money to pay a debt but I really needed the money to pay for that days drugs. It’s shameful behaviour but addiction is a changer of everything it comes into contact with

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That’s brilliant news I hope everything keeps going in the right direction

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Jem that is a massive thing. I don’t know if you read my post about me transferring a sum of money to my mum recently because I didn’t trust myself with it. I went through a mix of emotion and internal battling once I’d done it.

It’s great he’s done that. Massive.

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