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I’m glad things are looking up for some of us, all we can have is hope.
My son has been ‘pleasant’ he comes round every day , he lives in a very small room (bedsit) and he says coming round stops him from feeling lonely , depressed and going to someone else’s house to drink , I allow him in as I know he’s vulnerable. He has tried to commit suicide in the past.
He has agreed to a drugs test so I have ordered some of amazon and will ‘surprise’ him with it.
If he is without drugs then we have decided to allow him back home when his rent is next due as his landlord wants him out as he is renting the room and not declaring it .
With the pubs shut for 4 weeks this might be a good time for him to cleanse and get his act together but he will only be allowed home if he’s clear and agrees to various rules and random drug tests.
Great news ladies Things are looking up , me and my son went for a smoothie yesterday and had a nice chat , he’s opening up a bit , and we had a lovely time walking about near the river.
He can’t come home and stay until I know he’s completely clean So He has something to aim for . He says he’s off the drugs I don’t believe him and he’s still drinking .
It’s so important to us to have support on this thread , even if it’s just to rant And let off steam .
Bump – is it worth taking a video of your son and showing him he can see what he’s ‘really’ like .
JEM he went for the interview and it’s the 2nd time THEY didn’t show up , it’s a company that gets work for amazon drivers . I told him if they contact him again not to bother .
Bump – maybe your son thinks he doesn’t deserve to be Safe and Comfortable as he ‘ruined ‘ his life through his addictions – he needs help , someone to talk too , someone to advice him . Someone to explain it’s never too late .
Bump – maybe your son thinks he doesn’t deserve to be Safe and Comfortable as he ‘ruined ‘ his life through his addictions – he needs help , someone to talk too , someone to advice him . Someone to explain it’s never too late . Maybe you could call Drugfam tomorrow for yourself and family , they maybe able to advice you on the best way to help your son.
Streetlink maybe able to help ?
I’m so glad he’s been found .
Im sure your husband will take precautions and be safe . It’s important to get that phone as it will have details of the last person he called on it and maybe texts. I’m sure your husband will find out where it was found . Call his ‘girlfriend ‘ back and explain everything ask her what hospital he said he was at and when ! He may of been telling the truth. Have you told the police that he is now without His phone and money ? Speak to his girlfriend ask her if she knows why he might be in London ( it’s not too far from some parts of Surrey ).
It’s good that the homeless person called you and is willing to give you the phone , I hope your son is found safe .
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Bump22 sorry to hear this , please keep strong , and if you can on another phone ( as the police are calling you back ) call anyone he may know in London ? Where was The sheltered home he was in located ? Was it London ? Call back the phone and offer a reward for it ? £50 I’m in London I can meet this homeless person and get the phone for you ? And give them money ?
Bump 22 sending hugs Keep strong xx
I would check if they are allowed to throw him out at this time ? Surely they have a duty of care .
Call your local CAB for advice .
Thank you Jaynhissay for your helpful post , it gives us hope that our grown up children can also find their way to be free from drugs /alcohol. What was your rock bottom ? Is there such a thing ?
God It’s hard , No sleep last night and my husband is getting stressed with him and Covid. The landlord was knocking on his door at 10am for the rent. He’s paid it so has 1 month to find another room , he came round and cleaned up , I know I not supposed to have anyone in but I class him as very vulnerable. He has threatened To overdose on tranquillisers . He shaved his beard and now looks cleaner and he has a job interview tomorrow .
No girlfriend they did split up. I have said the only way he could come back home is when he’s clean from drugs and booze.
It’s something for him to aim for.
Your son is probably bored and sleeping a lot , I wish they would get an addiction like running , or keep fit.
I would pay for a monthly gym membership if I knew they were open. Maybe that’s something your son would also like and Something to do .
My son called my mum in tears , he doesn’t like living in the bedsit and his life is crap .
He wants to go live back at my mums but she can’t have him my brother says no .
I went round to see him he says he’s being bullied by the landlord , the rent is due tomorrow and he wanted it today , my son said he’s money only comes through tomorrow and the guy said ok but find another room by next month.
My son looks unwell , I think he’s hitting his ‘rock bottom ‘ I sat in the car and showed him his face in the car mirror. He looks like a piss head.
He finally admitted stealing my brothers viagra . I didn’t get a reason .
Iv told him to pay his rent tomorrow and look for another room in the next month.