[keiron]

Hi. My mum has been doing this for the entire 35 years that I’ve been alive and can remember it from as early on as I can remember. She will actually avoid/decline alcohol in public so it never fitted with alcoholism that you see on TV. Your dad is right, occasional drinking is nothing to worry about but that’s not what’s going on here. The secrecy shows that your mother is ashamed of her actions. Shame comes from knowing you’re doing something you shouldn’t be. I’d love to give you some really helpful advice but I’ve not found a solution for my mother in 35 years. Your mother needs to acknowledge her problem first. You could try letting her know that you’re aware of the situation and will be there to support her if she wants to get help, but her shame may mean she’ll just feel uncomfortable talking to you.

I suppose what I’m trying to say is only she can tackle this issue, but I don’t think you’re over-reacting.

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