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You did the right thing, hopefully it will help him in the long run. I think you have been very brave and very wise,why let the alcohol ruin 2 lives? You have done all you can, it’s up to him now, the help is out there for him when he’s ready. It won’t be easy, he won’t like it or enjoy the process but he does have a choice. You have made it very clear to him with your decision and refused to enable his addiction any more. I hope you find some peace and happiness. I am nearing the same decision myself with my 32 year old son, not quite there yet but for his future and my sanity it may have to happen. Take care
Hello I am new to this site and your story is a mirror of my own as well. My son is managing to hold on to jobs but his moodiness means he does fall out with people so it’s always a worry about how long it will last and whether he is drinking while at work (he says he doesn’t any ore but I just don’t know) . I love him so much and have tried to support him for the last 15 years of his drinking which has just steadily got worse, through a CGL detox programme last year, paying his rent for that month so he could take the time needed to end one job, do the detox and find a new one. He’s losing friends, has upset family members and he only really has me and one other left, plus a couple of decent friends who stick by him for now. He won’t take his antidepressants. I do have a couple of supportive friends who are there for me but as you said they have their own lives and can’t fully understand. I think my son has ADHD and this leads him to need to calm himself through weed and drink but I just don’t know where it’s going to end as he’s has also spoken about suicide. He can be so nasty and hurtful when he’s been drinking, dismissive of me when I try to talk to him even when relatively sober, but is actually a loving person but he just can’t find it within himself to change his ways. Thank you for reading and I hope you’re doing OK and managing to have some good days. I’ve just spent the weekend away from him and deliberately not spoken to him for 2 days just to give myself a couple of days headspace. You aren’t alone x