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Hi Joanie, the contact groups I gave to you, were for you to contact. I think you need these groups to help you through this difficult time . You shouldn’t have to face it alone.
Is there a close friend or relative you can confide in? At the moment I’m concerned about you.
Please seek support with these groups. Your son, like mine, is a grown man who has made these choices. He doesn’t mean to hurt you, this evil addiction makes them selfish and nasty, turns them into people we don’t know anymore.
It’s totally down to him when he makes his choice to seek help.
The AA fellowship are brilliant and so supportive. My son thankfully is 6 months clean, he couldn’t have done it without them.
He’s had to cut off from his friends who drink and it’s only the fellowship guys he sees now.
He can’t even have one drink, or it’s back to the nightmare of that vicious circle of one bad thing after another.
Please stay strong Joanie, seek advice from Drugfam or Icarus trust. Look after yourself first and foremost.
Lx ❤
Hi all, hoping and praying that everyone is as well as can be expected.
I’ve contacted the thread so that Joanie can find us to find some kind words of support and advice.
Sending hugs ❤
Lx
Hi Joanie thank you for sharing your story. I think we spoke before in your last message.
I’m sorry to see that your son’s situation with addiction has not improved- you must be exhausted.
Have you contacted any other groups for support? One of the other mums here mentioned Drugfam who were very supportive and also the Icarus trust posts here too with help and advice.
I really sympathise with you, there are other mums with sons with addictions who post on the Theresa thread. They are all so kind and sympathetic despite having their own issues to deal with.
I’ll post a message on the thread and it will be more current for you to join it.
In the meantime please look after your own health and well-being.
Take care ❤
Lx
Hi fifi, thank you for sharing your story. Everyone here has a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, thankfully he is in early recovery at the moment. He’s never been in rehab but even when he’s clean I always feel I’m walking on eggshells or looking over my shoulder.
I think your mind is so used to waiting for the next bad thing to happen, its kinda hard to switch that off. Almost like PTSD.
I’m no expert but that’s what it feels like to me.
Just follow the advice they are given – take each day at a time, don’t think too far ahead. Enjoy spending some positive experiences as much as possible.
I wish you both well.
Lx
You’re welcome Harry ????
I’ll keep you in my prayers to give you the strength to fight this battle. You won’t regret joining these meetings, my son gets wonderful support from the group.
He’s at the stage now when he’s helping others too.
Take care and keep posting here to let us know how you’re doing Harry.
Lx
Hi Harry, welcome to the forum and thank you for being so up front and honest about your addiction. I really do hope that someone will read your story and seek support after reading it.
I am the mum of an addict ( currently in early recovery- thank God). He has cocaine and alcohol addictions. The alcohol triggers the need for cocaine.
Our lives as a family in recent years have been a horrible nightmare thanks to that evil drug.
Thankfully my son reached out for help 2 years ago, he was up to his eyes in debt, dealers breaking the door down, about to lose his job, flat, everything. We could see that he was really trying hard, by joining CA and AA meetings and going regularly, working the 12 steps with a sponsor. He’s relapsed a few times but this happens.
Harry what I’m trying to say is – it’s not too late to seek help. You can get clean again and see your children again, it takes great strength, willpower and faith to do this thing. You’ll get all this with the CA groups.
Please think about this, you sound like a nice person, you’re really worth the effort my friend.
Take care and look after yourself.
Lx
I’ll second that February Marie, you are all always in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending you all my love ❤
Lx
Hi Jamie, I’m so glad to hear that you’re going to register at CA.
This drug is evil. It reels you in – without you realising it. My son’s friends were using it years ago over a weekend, but he has an addictive personality which means, once he starts, he can’t switch off! Unlike his friends who could take it or leave it.
It just snowballed from him using , disappearing for days, turning up, looking like s**t. Sleep for days, not eating, not going to work running up large debt etc, just a vicious cycle of addiction.
It upsets those closest- do you have a partner? Do they know?
One of the mums on the forum has lost her son to addiction recently. So yes, it’s very scary and a very dangerous drug, if you let it take over your life.
It’s the weekend Jamie, you take care, stay strong and seek help through CA.
Lx ❤
Hi Jamie, welcome to the forum, thank you for sharing your story with us.
I think that you have taken a step to recovery by admitting that you have an addiction and are seeking support. You have already been clean for 6 months so you know that you can do it.
My son is 29 and has alcohol and cocaine addictions (the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine).
He is currently in early recovery- almost 6 months, but he couldn’t have done it without the help of AA and CA fellowship groups.
Of course, you need to have a strong will to battle this evil drug that seeks to destroy everything in its path!
These guys have been so supportive to my son. He has a sponsor and is working the 12 steps. He’s now got to the stage where he is helping others, im so proud of him for getting this far ❤.
Perhaps you could scroll back and read Danman83 posts as he is a person in recovery and gives good advice and support? Relapses are to be expected, they are part of the road to recovery.
I wish you well my friend, stay in touch here and let us know how you’re doing. Please don’t let this evil drug destroy another life and family- we’ve been to hell and back .
Stay strong ????
Lx
Hi Nanny ger,
I’m so sorry to read your story. I can only imagine what it’s like for you. I hope and pray that you both get the strength to get through this and that your son will seek the support and help he needs.
Take care of yourself,
Lx ❤
Bump, so sorry to hear that you have this horrible virus again!
I hope the double vaccine will help you fight it off quickly this time.
As if you haven’t got enough to think about – life can be so cruel.
Please rest and look after yourself Bump, concentrate on you for a change.
Sending hugs ❤
Lx
Hi Jem, that book sounds interesting, knowledge is power. We need all the help we can to fight this battle of addiction too.
The 12 steps are really important to their recovery, and going over it with their sponsor weekly or whatever. Along with the regular meetings, this has been working for my son. Lately, he’s been helping others himself which I find comforting. There are also weekend conventions here in the UK and abroad. They meet like minded people of all ages and can , relax in an atmosphere where there is no temptation to use. There are workshops and talks and a bit eating and music. A chance for them to feel “normal” again. I don’t ask too many questions but I guess it’s through AA/CA . Might be worth looking into when your son is ready.
February Marie- I hope that your son is fine, at least he’s in the right place for support. Try not to worry although I know it’s hard not to.
Thinking and praying for us all here. Sending love ❤
Lx
Hi Maggie welcome to the forum. Don’t be put off for support here, as there are many people in recovery offering advice and support.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and I’ve had some good advice from them.
Good luck and stay strong
Lx
Hi lins, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story.
I wish you all the best on your journey to recovery. Keep posting and let us know how you’re doing my friend.
Stay strong
Lx ❤
Hi Blaggin, welcome to the forum, yes, most people here have a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice too.
You have taken the first step to admit that you have an addiction and want support. This is a good start, and a difficult thing to admit.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, (the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine ).
He is currently in early recovery, he’s been through some bad times, and so have we. Thankfully, he reached out to CA and AA fellowship groups. He goes to the meetings regularly- you have to- he is working the 12 steps with a sponsor and has great support from these guys.
It’s a daily battle, you need to be strong to fight the urges, but give it time, one day at a time…you’ll get there.
Scroll back a bit and read Danman83 posts. He offers good advice as a person in recovery. Relapses can happen but you just have to get back on the saddle again !
Please try these fellowships, it really can work, faith, strength and hope is their motto . You truly need this, to beat this evil that is addiction .
I wish you well my friend ❤
Lx