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Hi Jaz,
Congratulations, you have done so well. I feel proud for you!
Stay strong my friend, I will keep you I my prayers.
Stay in touch, each day, each week you will see improvements in your health and mind.
Take care of yourself, stay in touch,
Lx
Hi all,
Bump, so sorry to hear about your son’s relapse. He’s been doing so well too. Do you think he was triggered by the dealer going into the salon? Sometimes that’s all it takes. My son had a difficult situation out with his old mates at the weekend foe a meal. We didn’t think it was a good idea to go, he didn’t drink but it was real hard for him. He came back in an agitated state, saying..is this it? For the rest of my life? What an existence…he was sorely tempted.
Debc- so hard for them, it is like a battle but they have to be so strong to fight that urge. Enjoy your evening’s peace.
My long covid is improving, I still know my limitations, I get tired too, or maybe I’m gettin old! We can count ourselves of the lucky ones though i guess.
The anxiety of worrying about our son’s addictions is exhausting too. You can never really relax properly.
Thinking of you all my friends, and sending hugs ❤
Lx
Hi Catcull, thank you for sharing your story with us. Debc has very kindly given you some good advice. My son also has alcohol and cocaine addictions for around 10 years +.
I have also been bullied and had to deal with aggressive behaviour in the past. Thankfully, he has joined CA and AA meetings and working through the steps with a sponsor. The fellowship are a great support to him. I don’t get too complacent though, as he’s relapsed in the past too . But I am thankful that he’s trying his very best to make amends.
Click onto ‘share your story ‘ at the top of the page, then scroll back the pages until you see Theresa thread. I also post there. The mums are all very supportive and kind, and everyone understands each other and no one judges you here.
First and foremost, take care of yourself and others in the family.
Sending hugs,
Lx
Hi Bt1978
I think we spoke before. Congratulations on your 13 years sobriety, that’s brilliant. It gives us all hope to hear that.
My son has cocaine and alcohol addictions. He’s currently in early recovery 4+ months.
He attends meetings regularly and has a sponsor and doing the steps. I just needed some advice on what to say to him sometimes.
Tonight for example, he met some of his original friends, they know his issues but met up to organise an up an coming celebration.
He wasn’t drinking but I think the meeting up with them caused him some discomfort and it unsettled him. He came in all negative and had a right rant about how his life is rubbish now. He can’t do what they do etc. He stormed off and I didn’t know what to say to make it easier for him. I just gave him a hug.
I’m guessing meeting up with previous drinking buddies is a no -no. I’m worried that it’s going to trigger a relapse and the thought of this fills me with dread.
He told us he could handle meeting with them but I guess not.
I think he was hopefully going to a meeting.
I just don’t know what to do or say sometimes. Any suggestions?
Lx
Hi Casey, welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice .
You have taken the first difficult step in admitting you have an addiction and want support. This is a great start.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and currently in early recovery . He registered with local AA and CA groups, does meetings regularly, which you have to do. The fellowship are so supportive and this is the only thing that has kept him clean.
He has a good job also and a family who care about him and he was about to loose it all for cocaine, alcohol and rising debt. Not to mention his mental and physical health.
If you don’t have someone close to support you Casey, please join these groups. They are a lifeline to get back to some form of normality. Please contact the Samaritans if you feel you need more than these support groups.
Stay strong, sending you hugs
Lx
Hi Joanie, you poor thing, no wonder you’re exhausted!
It is exhausting and mentally draining looking after a loved one with addictions. I’m sorry to hear about your health issues with cancer too. I do hope that things will improve for you. It helps to share your story here.
When you log into the website, there are 3 headings – Share your story, Drugs alcohol and mental health, and Bereavement. Your story is on the Drugs and alcohol one. Click onto Share your Story one and scroll down until you see the Theresa thread. I feel that I am amongst friends who are so kind and understanding despite their own difficult circumstances.
Our sons are all at different stages in their addiction but thankfully we can support each other.
I hope you have a nice time in London, a chance to switch off, hopefully you’ll have a lovely birthday.
Try not to worry, the addicts prayer begins: God grant me the courage to accept the things I cannot change….works for us parents too!
I hope your son finds the strength to fight his battle, the AA and CA fellowship groups have been a great support to my son. Hopefully your son will seek support when he is ready.
Sending you hugs, stay strong Joanie.
Lx ❤
Hi Jaz, so happy to hear that you are 3 days clean! You have to celebrate these successes.
Take every minute, hour and day at a time.
I know Danman83 says he starts the day with meditation, so does my son, he said it resets your brain.
It is very important that you register for CA meetings even online would be better than nothing, my friend. At least you have others who can support you going through the more difficult stages of withdrawal.
Please don’t let this evil drug beat you, be strong ????.
I will keep you in my prayers Jaz.
Keep in touch here too.
Lx ❤
Hi Joanie, welcome to the forum, this is a great place to vent and seek support and advice from others who are in similar positions.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry that your son’s addiction is causing anxiety and stress.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and over the years has caused our family a lot of pain and distress.
Thankfully he is in early recovery and doing okay atm.
I usually post on the Theresa thread. There are several of us mums with sons with addictions. Everyone is so understanding and supportive. Just look at the heading ‘share your story ‘ and read the Theresa thread.
The forum has a homepage offering support and advice and also the Icarus trust posts here too. Drugfam has a counselling service too I believe. No need to feel alone in this nightmare.
Please look after yourself Joanie. Confide in a close friend or relative or keep posting here.
Take care,
Lx
Hi Jaz, I feel bad for you. But there is no point in punishing yourself.
I know you really want to get clean and that is the first step to recovery.
Please join a Cocaine anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous group. These people will support you and give you help and advice to help deal with the cravings.
Stay strong Jaz and please don’t give up.
Sending hugs to you
Lx
Hi all, I’ve been reading the thread with a heavy heart. I lit a candle at church for us all here today.
I hope and pray that our sons get the strength to fight this daily battle of addiction. You are all in my thoughts and daily prayers.
I know not everyone is religious but my faith is the only thing that’s got me through these difficult times.
Stay strong everyone, sending you all much love ❤
Lx
Hi Bump, I’m so sorry to read this after your son has been in recovery for so long.
I remember reading one of Danman83s posts where he said about ” triggers”.
He said a person in recovery can be fine and then something can just trigger the brain into wanting something. I guess seeing an ex dealer may have triggered your son to behave the way he did.
Even me sitting watching TV with my son and a clip from Glastonbury or some concert came on and he told me to switch channels.
Your son will just be lashing out at you because you care the most about him. Crazy I know.
I hope your lad gets back on track Bump, hopefully it’s just a blip as they say.
Sending you much love ❤
Lx
Hi Deborah, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice too.
Thank you for sharing your story, I’m so sorry to read that this evil drug is destroying young person’s life. Its such a difficult position to be in , as a mum you love them, but don’t want to enable them either.
I usually post on the Theresa thread. There are several of us mums with sons who have addictions and every one is so supportive and understanding.
The adfam homepage offer advice and support and the Icarus trust posts here too.
We all share the same thoughts and fears for our sons. They need to know that they are loved, but we shouldn’t have to put up with the nightmare that goes with their choices.
Please look after your own health and well-being. Confide in a close friend or keep posting here.
The problem won’t go away until the addict seeks the help and support themselves unfortunately.
My son is almost 29, he has alcohol and cocaine addictions, I can totally sympathise with you.
Take care of yourself,
Lx ❤
You’re welcome. Yeah, I’m good thanks, son is still doing well thankfully, when he’s content, so am I! I’ll keep the prayers going ????
Lx
Hi Dan, so happy for you! I wish you much love, health and happiness in your new home. ❤
Keep up the good work ????
Lx
You’re welcome, Jaz, keep posting here and let us know that how you are doing.
Look for a local Cocaine Anonymous group or do online meetings with them. They are very supportive and it will help you to be the best you can be.
Take care, sending you much love ❤
Lx