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Thank you for your words of encouragement Kulstar- I’ll pass them onto my son.
Yes, a whole different world for him, staying clean, hanging with guys who don’t use( mostly the fellowship).
It was hard at first for him- socialising was a big thing for him he always looked forward to the weekend. But he couldn’t ever stop when his friends could. He’s always been a bit ocd, maybe even adhd. He’s found new hobbies and the CA group keeps him busy.
I thank God every day, and pray for his strength to fight the Beast!
Be proud of yourself Kulstar- you’re doing so well ✨️
Lx ❤️
Hi Navy thank you for sharing your story.
If you click above ‘ share your story ‘ then scroll to Change is possible- an addicts story by Kulstar.
I have also been where you are with my son, alcohol and cocaine addictions. It’s a living nightmare.
Thankfully he is 15mths clean atm, through seeking help from CA and AA groups, going to regular meetings, working with a sponsor through the 12 step program.
It’s been tough for him, every day is a battle, but he’s done so well and helping others now.
He has to be prepared to make the change, avoid triggers, friends who use etc, delete scumbag dealers numbers.
Stay strong, have faith- change is possible as Kulstar says.
Look after yourself in the meantime.
Lx ❤️
So hard to see the one you love turn into someone you hardly recognise.
So sad really. This drug /substance is so powerful, it consumes them. They have to be so strong to fight it.
My son wouldn’t have coped without us and the CA fellowship and regular meetings- they so need this.
Yes, im so proud of him, he looks so well and is more thoughtful. Don’t get me wrong- he can still fly off the handle, but will usually apologise later.
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It’s a horrible situation isn’t it? My son is 15mths clean thankfully atm. He had to reach out himself no one could make him do it.
However I understand, how living around a person with addictions can affect your mental health.
I feel my family and I have been left with a kind of PTSD as a result . My therapy is posting here and supporting where I can.
I hope you find your peace soon- and your loved one too .
Stay strong
Lx ❤️
Thank you February Marie,
She was a wonderful lady and a gracious Queen. She will be well missed.
Feel sorry for her family going through all the pomp and ceremony when they just need to grieve.
Hope all is as well as can be expected with you and yours.
Lx ❤️
Hi lece13
Adfam homepage offer advice and support. There’s also Drugfam Al- anon and Icarus trust. I’ve heard many people here have had great support from these groups.
You could also Google your nearest help group.
This chat forum has been a great help to me over the past couple of years especially when I felt I couldn’t talk to my friends or family for fear I would be judged having a son with alcohol and cocaine addictions.
Sending hugs and prayers
Lx ❤️
You’re welcome Kulstar!
Good luck with the 10 k
Lx ❤️
Hi Bella pop, I’m sorry to read your story. I felt that you needed someone to reply to you.
It’s great that you’re husband is clean, but I know that recovery is really really hard in the first few weeks/months.
My 30yr son is currently 15mths free of alcohol and cocaine. I know it was difficult for everyone, every day is like a battle.
Your husband is trying to pin the guilt on you that’s what an addict does, his system is still trying to free itself from drugs.
I’m not sure how to advise you but, you need to let him know, that you will support him in his recovery, but this behaviour is unacceptable.
Have you read Kulstars story here on the forum? He is a person in recovery, very upfront and honest about the way he treated his family while he was using.
It’s a very emotional read, also he is helping other people to get support and offers advice and support to the families of addicts.
Please stay strong and try and stay positive for your own health and well-being.
Your husband needs to attend CA meetings regularly in early recovery. The quote my son was told ” 7 days without meetings makes one weak”
It’s really important that he sticks with their program ie getting a sponsor – going through the 12 steps , regular contact with the fellowship.
It’s a horrible situation but, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Your husband needs to use all the strength he’s got to fight this devil that is cocaine.
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
Hi GAyrshire
When I was looking for a specialist like that, I contacted my NHS gp, and got him to give me names of local people they use and would recommend.
You can just see them privately then.
Hope this helps ,
Lx
Hi Kate
It’s good to hear from you. I often think of you and your family.
I wish you well with the volunteering – as Deb says , it will be very rewarding for you helping these people in recovery.
Lx ❤️
The 12step programme is used in AA, CA and rehab groups. You can Google it. It’s called The Big Book and you go through it during counselling or a sponsor.
I’m so proud of what he’s achieved, he’s helping others now too.
I never get complacent, living with addiction has affected all of us.
It helps me to try and support others here.
Lx ❤️
Hi Debc I’m so sorry to read this, I thought when you hadn’t posted that things were better for you.
It really is down to him to make that change. I guess you know that already though. Have you read Kulstars story- he is in recovery and posted recently about it. His story really moved me, he’s so honest about all the things that happened when he was using and the effect on his family.
I can’t imagine what it would be like to put your son out it is a very brave decision, but sometimes there’s no other way. I was fortunate my son had moved out already, but he nearly lost his job, flat, car everything…it was close.
Please look after yourself Debc, be good to yourself.
Always here to chat.
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
Hi Imaginedragon,
That’s such good news , I really hope and pray that this will be the turning point for your son.
Yes, everyone here will agree with you, it’s very frustrating and stressful to see your loved one in such sad and difficult situations as a result of their addictions.
Hopefully he will work the 12step programme with a sponsor.
This is the only thing that worked for my son. He had a few relapses, but is currently over a year clean ! Miracles do happen- hope, strength and faith.
Use this time to take care of yourself, a bit of self love everyday no matter how small.
Keep in touch here, it’s good to share and support ????
Sending hugs
Lx ❤️
Extra hugs to you too February ❤️