Forum Replies Created
-
AuthorPosts
-
lindylooParticipant
Hi Dan, it sounds like you’re getting back on track which is good to hear. I think you have to really , as this is your future, you’re a young man with good future ahead of you and ultimately the choices are all down to you.
The difference this time is that you have all these strategies in place, you know, where to go, who to speak to and what to do.
The fellowship guys and people in recovery are so supportive, you’ll be just fine, you’ll get your mojo back again soon.
Lovely sunny weekend, just doing mumsy stuff, planting shrubs for the summer and some cooking.
Saw my son earlier, so I’m happy he’s doing okay.
Stay in touch here Dan,
Stay strong
Lx
lindylooParticipantHi Dan, I’m gutted for you, but I totally agree with Debc, please don’t beat yourself up about it!
We all know that with people in recovery, every day is a battle.
I told you how well my son was doing…almost 6 months clean, sponsor, 12 steps done, mentoring starting….then , he had a date, thought he could handle a few drinks…and you know the rest!
Relapses are part of the recovery process Dan. I understand how you are feeling just now, my son was the same, no one was more disappointed than himself.
But he got a fright after the last bout of drinking, so after he’d sobered up and rested, he’s trying hard again and is doing well atm. While he’s trying hard, it makes it easier for me to support him.
As Debc says, take each hour, each day at a time and do whatever you have to do to get back to where you were. No one judges you here, we’re all proud of you and the way you support the forum.
Enjoy the nice sunny weekend and stay positive, your family will come round when they know you’re trying.
Stay strong, keep the faith
I’ll keep you in my prayers ????
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
lindylooParticipantHi Wagtail,
We have spoken previously. I’m glad your son is finally getting the support and advice he needs. More especially as he’s ex marine.
I think and pray often for us all on this website and hope our boys will see the light and turn their lives around.
Helping others is a good step towards recovery.
I look forward to hearing his progress, yes, we are all victims of these terrible and destructive addictions. I hope and pray that life improves for all on this forum. It’s good to hear positive news.
Take care of you too ❤
Lxx
lindylooParticipantHi all, I’ve been reading the thread and totally sympathise with you all.
My son told me that the addiction desensitises them and they can’t see the destruction they cause.
I’ve often had the ‘so what’s wrong with you..conversation when inside you want to shout out…..IT’S YOU and your addiction that’s put us all through hell, got us walking on eggshells, scared to answer their calls cos you’re not sure what you’re gonna get.
You ladies and the others on this thread are my sisters going through the same nightmare, and we all understand the horrible cycle of addiction and what it does to a family.
I pray for us all daily and hope our boys can fight their battle with addiction. Our boys are still there, somewhere, occasionally we’ll get a glimmer of hope.
We have to try and concentrate on our own health and well-being more importantly. We need to celebrate any positives in our daily lives and vent here whenever we need a friendly word of support, advice or encouragement.
Keep the chins up ladies, me personally- the 2 of them lol.
I thank you all for your input and support here and keep you all in my prayers.
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
lindylooParticipantThanks hun, have a nice day, going to bed now.
Lx
lindylooParticipantThankfully my hair seems to be okay. Just fatigue and breathlessness when I over exert myself, which I avoid! Use inhalers daily too. At least we’re survivors!
Lx
lindylooParticipant68862, just want to say congratulations on the birth of your little grandson! How lovely and what a lovely distraction from all your troubles.
I get my 2nd jag on Monday so I’m also relieved about that too as I’m still dealing with long covid symptoms after a year!
Hugs to all
Lx
lindylooParticipantBump – so pleased to hear that your son is 3 months clean. Such a relief for you. I hope he’s proud of himself for this milestone im sure you and the rest of the family will be.
Spring is here and summer is round the corner, we have that to look forward to.
I hope your long covid is easing, I’m better than I was but not yet 100 %. Chest results are clear so no permanent damage thankfully.
I think and pray for us all here daily. Faith, hope and strength same as the AA mottos. Works for us too.
Take care ❤
Lx
May 18, 2021 at 5:00 pm in reply to: Feeling like I’m a bad mum – Sons cocaine habit went unnoticed by me #23295lindylooParticipantAs you read this, look at the dark blue area above, click on ‘ share your story ‘ it will bring up several pages of stories, look for the one headed Theresa.
Yes, it’s sad but they are oblivious to this until they seek help through AA or CA. My son was recently almost 6 months clean and relapsed, I was upset, but he was affected by it more I think, they can relapse several times.
Lx
May 18, 2021 at 4:33 pm in reply to: Feeling like I’m a bad mum – Sons cocaine habit went unnoticed by me #23292lindylooParticipantHi Asadmum, welcome to the forum. I was sad to read your story but I wanted you to know that there’s no need to feel alone in this nightmare.
My son is 28 and has cocaine and alcohol addictions. The two go hand in hand unfortunately.
So many people here have loved ones who have addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice too.
It’s a relief to speak to the others going through the same issues.
I usually post on the Theresa thread, click onto ‘share your story ‘ there are several of us mums all with sons with addictions. Everyone is so supportive and understanding, but it’s good to vent or seek advice and support from other mums who totally understand you and sympathise with you.
If I can offer any advice it’s that, there’s nothing you can do or say until they admit they have a problem and want support.
My son started taking mild drugs around 14, escalated to alcohol, now cocaine. Its been 14yrs of he’ll honestly. Unfortunately they themselves don’t see it, as the addiction consumes them and turns them into people you don’t recognise any more.
Your lad is still in there, it’s just this evil drug that turns them into monsters.
I wish you well, the forum has a homepage with support and the Icarus trust posts here too for advice and support.
Please look after your own health and well-being and the others in the family. You need to be strong to fight this.
Take care, always hear to chat,
Lx
lindylooParticipantCongratulations Dot, you must be so pleased and your family too.
It’s good to hear positive news.
Keep on doin what yer doin!
Lx
lindylooParticipantAmen to that. X
lindylooParticipantGod Bless you Balu, you deserve so much more.
Yes, this evil drug takes them over completely, it is like a mistress who they will always choose over their loved ones. You just have to see the other stories here from wives, girlfriends, mothers. It’s heartbreaking.
It will do you good to go to your home country and see your family.
Just take each day at a time . I pray daily which helps, my son has stopped drinking at the moment, maybe my prayers are being answered.
I wish you well Balu, whatever you choose to do, I will keep you in my prayers. Go easy on the sleeping tablets. Stay strong.
Lx
lindylooParticipantHi February Marie
I was thinking of you on Mother’s day and hoping you found some special time with your family.
I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling low, I was a bit like that over the weekend. It’s sad when you just can’t switch off completely.
Its the nature of the beast I guess. Even when my son was clean for all those months, I still had a sense of uneasiness . At least you know that you’re not alone with these thoughts, we’re all sisters here, we can talk about our feelings here freely. No judgement . Everyone feeling Everyone else’s pain.
We as mums can do no more, we have other children who thrive and are successful. Please try not to punish yourself with all the, maybe if this or that, or tried this . Its ultimately down to their choices.
Feel free to off load or vent anytime.
Sending hugs across the miles
Lx
lindylooParticipantHi balu, I am so sorry to read your story. No need to feel alone as everyone here has a loved onevwith addictions.
We all have been treated badly, it’s the addiction that makes them so selfish and lash out at the people who do the most for them.
My son is 28 and has cocaine and alcohol addictions, I feel your pain.
In my opinion you deserve so much more, someone who will appreciate the kind person you are. Only you can decide what is best for you, but please don’t wait around unless he is willing to change his lifestyle. I think it’s time to be kind to yourself, whatever it takes.
Take care
Lx
-
AuthorPosts