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lindylooParticipant
Thanks for your support Jem, I really appreciate it.
Hope you have a good weekend too, some normality with some restrictions being lifted.
You and your lad will be in my prayers too.
Night night
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lindylooParticipantHi Jem, sorry to jump in here.
I wrote on another thread to Danman83 about the Doctor rejecting my son’s plea for help with his addiction .
He had contacted Addiction Services who said to go to GP for help. Except GP didn’t know what to suggest (he admitted that) and said go back to Addiction services!
Can you believe it, after admitting to the guard dog receptionist that he was an alcoholic in need as well. Poor lad, imagine a professional turning a person with mental health issues away.
My son said he’d wished he had recorded it and sent it to Panorama- they would’ve had a field day!
I’m glad you met up with someone and got things off your chest, it helps to share your concerns and worries.
I went back to work this week too, it’s only part time but its a good distraction. Such a worry, my son had bad tremors this week.
Lx
lindylooParticipantYep, its shocking. Scotland are having an election next month, not that I’m crazy for the Lib Dems but in their manifesto they’re training up more mental health counsellors and more training in mental health issues apparently. Big Boris needs to sit up and take notes!
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lindylooParticipantThanks for your replies guys.
My son said that he wished he had recorded the conversation as Panorama tv programme would have a field day with it.
The doc actually admitted that he didn’t know what to do, and to go back to Addiction services who told him to try doc in the first place!
My hubby speaking to a doc on Monday about something else, I think he’s seeking a 2nd opinion .
Honestly, there needs to more training done on addictions and mental health issues.
I’ve dropped some food off this morning to son, but he’s not answering his phone now, which is a worry, I believe he’s still doing online meetings.
Bloody doctor, I’m seething!
Angie, sorry to hear about your husband, this is what I’m afraid off, he already has the tremors.
Dan, thanks for your advice, at least my son contacted me and told me , he had to go through the receptionist first, and she sounded like she was sneering down at him. He was being honest saying he was an alcoholic too, not easy to admit.
I’m hoping and praying he doesn’t lose it tonight or he’ll need an ambulance, as we had to drive up early in morning with some alcohol to get him past the shakes.
Thank guys your support means a lot to me.
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lindylooParticipantThanks for your replies guys.
My son said that he wished he had recorded the conversation as Panorama tv programme would have a field day with it.
The doc actually admitted that he didn’t know what to do, and to go back to Addiction services who told him to try doc in the first place!
My hubby speaking to a doc on Monday about something else, I think he’s seeking a 2nd opinion .
Honestly, there needs to more training done on addictions and mental health issues.
I’ve dropped some food off this morning to son, but he’s not answering his phone now, which is a worry, I believe he’s still doing online meetings.
Bloody doctor, I’m seething!
Lx
lindylooParticipantHi Dan, hope all is well with you.
I was just going to post on the Theresa thread.
I feel vexed for my son. He’s been really trying to stop drinking and contacted our local GP for advice yesterday. He said it was a complete waste of time, Addiction Services told him to see Doctor, who then over the phone told him he couldn’t help him!! No referral anywhere, no nothing! He felt really bad after opening up about it , then to get dismissed just like that, I think he was hoping for a detox of librium or something he mentioned.
I can’t believe that he reached out for help and no one helped him.
Anyone else you know had this issue? I’m gutted for him when he’s clearly trying to seek help!
Makes me mad.
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lindylooParticipantThanks again Dan
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lindylooParticipantThanks Dan, I just needed reassuring that we did the right thing.
Yeah, I think he’s going for it big time to be feeling like that. He’s in his own place so I don’t see him.
I’ve told him to speak to the fellowship guys about it . We don’t know enough about it to help.
I agree though, I think he needs medical attention, he won’t want his work to know anything, they think he has anxiety issues but not his addictions.
Difficult one, I’ll phone him later maybe his head will be clearer, I did suggest tapering it down.
Thanks again Dan
You’re a good ‘un!
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lindylooParticipantThanks Dan, I just needed reassuring that we did the right thing.
Yeah, I think he’s going for it big time to be feeling like that. He’s in his own place so I don’t see him.
I’ve told him to speak to the fellowship guys about it . We don’t know enough about it to help.
I agree though, I think he needs medical attention, he won’t want his work to know anything, they think he has anxiety issues but not his addictions.
Difficult one, I’ll phone him later maybe his head will be clearer, I did suggest tapering it down.
Thanks again Dan
You’re a good ‘un!
Lx
lindylooParticipantYes , i remember that step, my son apologised to me, my husband and his sister for all the S**t he’s put us through.
Dan, my son phoned around 3am this morning. He was frantic saying, he was ‘rattling ‘ I guess he had shakes or something. Told us he needed to have some alcohol ASAP. If not he said he would need to call an ambulance. I didn’t know what to do, I didn’t want to enable him, but he said the Big Book says when that happens, you need to take some alcohol to calm it until he slept.
I didn’t know whether to believe him or not, but my husband ended up dropping off a bottle with some gin in it.
He phoned later in the morning to say thanks for doing that, but we told him we wouldn’t be doing it again.
Did we do the right thing? My anxiety was through the roof thinking about it.
So it looks like he’s drinking often but managing to work, i guess what you’d call a functioning alcoholic. So sad to hear him like this, I said at the time, maybe medical intervention might be what you need atm.
I told him he needed to seek support or his future could be very bleak.
I’m sorry if I’m unloading but only a person in recovery could answer this , can’t discuss it with anyone else really.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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lindylooParticipantHi Dan, thanks for asking.
Not seen much of him tbh. I’ve phoned a couple of times and I text him every day to let him know I’m thinking of him. He said he’s fine and not to worry.
He told me last week that he needs to drink to cope, he said he’s not using but we know that it can escalate. He said he can handle it. He’s managing to stay working, so that’s good.
He said he was going to a meeting last night but dunno if he did. I don’t ask too many questions these days.
I just want to congratulate you for being over 100 days clean. That’s fantastic ????. All us mums are so proud of you as I’m sure your family will be, and rightly so!
Keep up the good work, and thank you for being so supportive to us all here, its much appreciated.
Night night
Lx
lindylooParticipantHi 68862
I’m sort of at the same stage as you at the moment. My son relapsed about 3/4 wks ago. We’ve hardly seen him although I make a point of texting daily.
I feel its down to him now, he knows the strategies to stop, he has support from the Fellowship guys. He knows where we are.
I keep hoping and praying too.
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lindylooParticipantHi Wagtail, I am so sorry that you have this dilemma to deal with.
If you read Danman83 thread he has lots of advice and support as a person in recovery.
Perhaps the Icarus trust could advise you too, I believe they have counselling services.
My 28yr son also has alcohol and cocaine addictions, so I understand the rollercoaster of emotions that goes with it.
My son has recently relapsed after almost 6 months clean. He was honest with us, and told us he’s drinking again to help him ‘cope’.
Its easy to get angry and frustrated but I told him I still love him. Told him we’re here for him but not to settle his debts.
I help with cigs and food and text him or phone regularly. But ultimately I guess its down to their choices that they make, to get support and help. It’s heartbreaking as you feel you can’t switch off. I feel now, that the ball is in his court and I can’t do anymore than I’m doing at the moment. My health and well-being would suffer if I got too involved.
I know after a comedown they are very tired and when they’re not sleeping they’re very hungry. Its better that they don’t mistake hunger pangs for drug cravings. Just keep him fed and hydrated for the moment and he’ll sleep it off for a few days. That’s my experience anyway, I guess everyone handles different situations according to the needs at the time, especially if he has suicidal thoughts, I’d seek professional advice.
Remember to take care of you too.
Keep in touch on this forum.
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lindylooParticipantJem, im so pleased for you, what a wonderful surprise. I would say that’s a step in the right direction!
I also think of us all often, brought together by this nightmare of addiction. It’s one of the few good things that’s come out of it.
We can only hope and pray that things get better for us all.
Hope the weekend is good for all.
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
lindylooParticipantMy son also thinks he can be a moderate drinker. The AA tell him complete abstinence is the only answer. A few drinks and then it’s triggers the need for cocaine , then the cycle starts…I guess you know the pattern only too well like me.
It’s good he has a girlfriend, my son feels lonely and its difficult to meet someone while your fighting addiction never mind in a global pandemic!
I hate this evil drug that hooks you in , makes all your problems go away, but leaves a trail of devastation in its wake. And then the scumbag dealers who prey on the vulnerable like vultures.
Sorry…im just venting, I don’t know what the answer is to rid the world of this evil drug. We can only do our best though, let our kids know that they’re still loved.
Just have to do the best we can under the circumstances. I’ve got a black belt in prayer at the moment ????
Take care, keep your chin up.
Lx
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