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I’m glad you’re looking after yourself. You need something to keep you sane.
There’s no rhyme or reason why they pick this path. I think my son has mental health issues, ie undiagnosed adhd or ocd.
I’d think your son will be struggling too, if he’s an ex veteran and done tours in Afghanistan.
Rehab can be so expensive and may not always be the answer either.
My son was clean from alcohol and cocaine for almost 6 months after joining AA and CA meetings regularly. Seems to work for a lot of people too, but they really have to want to quit first themselves.
My younger daughter is also affected by his behaviour and how it affects us as a family.
It’s good to share stories here as people understand and give advice and support
Take care
Lx
Hi Wagtail, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice too.
Thank you for sharing your story, so similar to many here as you will see.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, he’s 28yrs, been “troubled” since 14yrs. I understand some of what you are going through. It’s so difficult to get on with our own lives for worrying about their lives.
I just wanted you to know that there’s no need to feel alone.
Adfam has support on their homepage also the Icarus trust posts here too.
If you click on to ‘share your story ‘ and read the Theresa thread, there are several of us mums with sons with addictions. Everyone is so understanding and supportive . Also, Danman83 is a person in recovery offering support and advice too.
Please find time to look after yourself and your well being, don’t let this addiction consume your lives too.
Always here to chat
Take care
Lx
Hi 68862
Glad you had a nice day too.
I agree, I always feel on tenterhooks, even during the 5months recovery.
I saw my son today, so I was relieved as everything was very calm. I’ve learned not to ask too many questions.
Take care, sending hugs
Lx
Hi MaxHR
Glad you had a nice day too.
I agree, I always feel on tenterhooks, even during the 5months recovery.
I saw my son today, so I was relieved as everything was very calm. I’ve learned not to ask too many questions.
Take care, sending hugs
Lx
Hi Jem
I’m glad you had a nice relaxing day in the sun. Taking
pleasure in the little things also works for me.
Yeah, I agree even during that 5 months recovery I felt I was still looking over my shoulder waiting for whatever to happen. Gies with the territory I guess.
My son popped in briefly this morning, he seemed fine , starving..which immediately makes me suspect, but fairly upbeat.
I didn’t judge or ask too many questions, I’ve learned from past experience not to. He said he was fine.
Regarding the low energy, I remember Danman83 saying about taking vitamins to help with that, as the comedown from the drugs zaps the energy from them.
The sunshine will be good for them I guess.
Thinking of you all too, at least we all have each other here thankfully ❤
Lx
Thanks cyclingmad
You too.
Lx
Thanks Dan. He appeared this morning, needing phone fixed as I thought. To be honest, he looked okay, I’ve learned now not to ask too many questions.
He was hungry but was civil and fairly upbeat. Maybe I’m just overthinking stuff, he did mention that he’s finding the restrictions difficult, affecting his mental health he said, needs to see people.
I’ll be honest, I was so pleased to see him, didn’t judge or anything.
Just told him to stay in touch.
Feel better for seeing him though.
Lx
Hi ladies, just been reading your updates.
Jenny and Bump, im so pleased for you, great news that your sons are both doing well. It’s such a relief when they accept help and support and such a relief for you.
Debc was on another thread and her son is also doing well.
I hope your long covid symptoms are improving Bump. I think the inhalers are helping me a bit, still waiting on my lung ct results. Thank goodness for the nicer weather though!
Jem – I guess we’ll continue to hope and pray that our sons see sense and seek the help and support they need. Stay strong.
68862, welcome to the thread, we’re have sons with addictions and it’s great to vent and share successes with each other too.
Thanks to you all for your support.
Have a lovely Easter . I’m hoping and praying for another Easter miracle.:)
God bless, sending hugs
Lx
Hi ladies, just been reading your updates.
Jenny and Bump, im so pleased for you, great news that your sons are both doing well. It’s such a relief when they accept help and support and such a relief for you.
Debc was on another thread and her son is also doing well.
I hope your long covid symptoms are improving Bump. I think the inhalers are helping me a bit, still waiting on my lung ct results. Thank goodness for the nicer weather though!
68862, welcome to the thread, we’re have sons with addictions and it’s great to vent and share successes with each other too.
Thanks to you all for your support.
Have a lovely Easter . I’m hoping and praying for another Easter miracle.:)
God bless, sending hugs
Lx
Hi all, thank you all for your support and kind words.
Dan, i guess I’ll play it by ear, see if he comes for Easter dinner with his family (I doubt it unless he needs something) thanks so much for your support.
Debc- I’m so pleased for you and your son, looks like he turned a corner. It’s great when you see them being more like themselves and taking an interest. What a relief for you, long may it continue!
I’m devastated that my son has given in to temptation, I understand it’s so hard for them, but it’s hard for us too. I didn’t judge him, I was sympathetic and supportive, but I think he’s started back on the cycle. All the tell tale signs are back again.
I’ve been feeling low since it happened, im hoping it won’t sink to the depths like it did the last time. I don’t think I could cope.
My husband is detaching himself by not getting too involved . He has health issues and the stress really affects him. I will just keep praying.
68862 – thanks also for your kind words, im glad you had a good day with your son and his family.
Take pleasure in small successes.
Thank goodness we all have each other here.
God bless
Lx
I didn’t think it was a good idea to meet anyone, moreso with covid around. He’s always been a bit of a risk taker though. He’s a young man with “needs” I guess, I know by his pattern he’s using again. Unfortunately his phone is broken, so I guess I’ll need to look in on him. I feel I’ll get landed with the phone repair bill. I guess he’ll have blown his wages already!
I understand the illness part, he’s always done things 100%. Drinking, gambling, cocaine, (probably sex! ) always suspected he’s got ocd, or adhd or something, it would explain a lot of his behaviour . Don’t know what my next step should be?
Lx
Thanks Dan, your reply means a lot.
He relapsed about 3 weeks ago on the Fri, he said he was feeling lonely at it was nice evening. Arranged to meet a female, thought he’d have a couple of drinks to help him relax….and boom..back in the cycle. I saw him briefly after that few days, for food and cigs of course.
Last weekend hubby was going to buy him shopping but transferred cash so I’m guessing he bought drink and so on….
Didn’t see him for days again until he turned up with a broken phone.
I visited him yesterday at his flat , Didn’t let me in looked rough, said he was “fine” but didn’t want to talk. I told him to email us or pop down to see us. I just said we were worried and cared about him.
All this just triggers my anxiety again unfortunately.
Greatful for this forum to vent.
Lx
Well done Dan, 3 months!!
I’m so pleased for you, you are doing so well. You are also giving great support and advice to others here. I know when you have completed your 12 steps you will be a great sponsor and support to others in the fellowship.
You should be very proud of yourself and your family will be too
I’m gutted that my son has relapsed as I feel I’ve lost him to the devil again.
I’m hoping and praying for us all on this forum.
Keep on doing what you’re doing!
Lx
Hi 68862,
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s very sad but so similar to so many here on the forum who have a loved one with addictions.
My 29yr old son also has alcohol and cocaine addictions so I know the rollercoaster of emotions and distress it causes a family.
If you click on to ‘share your story ‘ and read the Theresa thread. There are several of us mums all with sons with addictions, so you have no need to feel alone and realise there are others in your exact situation unfortunately.
At least we can offer each other advice and support and know that no one is judging you.
The Icarus trust also posts here i believe they offer counselling .
I understand how you are feeling, my husband and I have tried everything to help, but realise now that it is ultimately their decision to stop. My son was recently nearly 6 months clean and he’s relapsed again, im heartbroken and feel very low .
But, we have to be strong, say no more cash, still let them know that we love and care about them. We need to take care of our own health and well-being or we’ll end up being casualties in this addiction too.
It’s difficult but try to take pleasure in the little things for the moment.
Spring is here, weather is improving and lockdown is easing.
Please take care of yourself first and foremost.
Keep in touch here, be strong
Lx
Thank you Cashhurt,
I hope you find your inner peace.
I too, feel the need to help people in the street, down on their luck. I buy food or warm gloves or hat.
My son appeared this evening , needing tobacco and something to eat.
I didn’t ask too many questions as I was relieved to see him.
Take care of yourself
Lx