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You’re welcome, we’re all here for each other.
Keep posting and stay strong ????
Lx
Hi captain, welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved with addictions or are people in recovery offering advice and support or some are seeking advice.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions but is clean and doing well just now.
If you read Dot’s story (next to this one) he is currently 9 months clean and is sharing his full story.
No one will judge you, we are all here for each other.
I wish you well
Lx
Oh no Bump, sorry to hear that. are they referring you to hospital for tests?
I’m still not confident enough to walk too far outside. At least the weather is milder, I found that cold air really agitated my breathing. Gp gave me 2 inhalers, a preventer and reliever. Helps a wee bit.
I caught Covid last March, I really thought I’d be a lot better by now too. I was relieved to hear of lockdown, but I got permission to work from home thankfully .
I’m trying to build up my stamina as I’m putting on weight as I’m not as active.
Doc told me to go on NHS covid recovery, there’s some advice there.
Take care Bump
Sending hugs
Lx
Oh no Bump, sorry to hear that. are they referring you to hospital for tests?
I’m still not confident enough to walk too far outside. At least the weather is milder, I found that cold air really agitated my breathing. Gp gave me 2 inhalers, a preventer and reliever. Helps a wee bit.
I caught Covid last March, I really thought I’d be a lot better by now too. I was relieved to hear of lockdown, but I got permission to work from home thankfully .
I’m trying to build up my stamina as I’m putting on weight as I’m not as active.
Doc told me to go on NHS covid recovery, there’s some advice there.
Take care Bump
Sending hugs
Lx
Jem, thanks for your thoughts on the ADHD, there needs to be more awareness, the earlier the better. My son did well at school, but was always forgetting stuff, losing things , bit shy , these are traits as well. I’m glad your son seems to have settled more too.
I hope your mum is keeping better too. My folks are 86 and 89 and thankfully doing fine.
Bump, glad to hear your son is safe too, hopefully getting the help and support he needs too. I hope your long covid is better, thankfully I’m working from home (hence the courses!) as I’m not 100 % yet.
Thinking and praying for us all and sending hugs.
Lx
Jem, thanks for your thoughts on the ADHD, there needs to be more awareness, the earlier the better. My son did well at school, but was always forgetting stuff, losing things , bit shy , these are traits as well. I’m glad your son seems to have settled more too.
I hope your mum is keeping better too. My folks are 86 and 89 and thankfully doing fine.
Bump, glad to hear your son is safe too, hopefully getting the help and support he needs too. I hope your long covid is better, thankfully I’m working from home (hence the courses!) as I’m not 100 % yet.
Thinking and praying for us all and sending hugs.
Lx
That’s brilliant news Ivy! I was also worried about your son in the snow and cold weather last week.
I’m so pleased he’s being helped and supported, must be such a relief for you. I hope things continue to go well for you both.
Take care of you now
Lx
Hi Daz
Just wanted to say Congratulations on being 9 months clean, you should be very proud of what you have achieved!
I know it can’t have been easy for you. My son is currently 4 months clean and I understand the difficulties you’ve both had to overcome to fight these addictions.
My son followed the 12 steps and part of it was apologising to all the people he’d hurt while using.
Its part of the healing process for all involved, then you can move on.
It sounds that your wife still hasn’t quite got over it yet, but you’re doing your best now. Please don’t beat yourself up over it.
The children will come to an age where their views will change. They will come round in their own time.
Your a better person now, you’ve been battling addiction for years, we can’t keep living in the past.
Unfortunately I don’t have all the answers, but I know forgiveness is a big part of recovery.
Hopefully your partner will realise that soon.
Keep on doing what you’re doing, you are an inspiration to others here, with your advice and support.
Take care
Lx
Hi all
There’s not a day goes by when I do think about you and our sons.
I’m grateful that I can relax a bit not having to worry. It’s been hard for my son, I can’t thank the AA and CA fellowship enough for supporting him and getting through these last few months.
Hes helping others now, its all part of the 12 step program.
There’s light at the end of the tunnel, they just need to want to be clean so badly.
Incidently,I’ve just finished a lockdown course on ADHD. I did not realise there was a connection between that and substance abuse and addiction. I’ve often wondered over the years, if he had some kind of disorder, but now I’m wondering..
The impulsiveness, lack of organisation, lack of understanding of consequences, low self esteem, accidents, carelessness, lack of empathy sometimes. So many people homeless, or in prison probably with undiagnosed ADHD.
It would certainly explain a lot of things, wouldn’t it?
Adults can get diagnosed, but people with addictions have to wait until they’re so many months clean before they can seek a diagnosis, then that can take a while too.
I read Danman83 post who’s in recovery and he mentioned he has ADHD too.
Frustrating to think this all could have been avoided if we knew for sure . Any thoughts?
Lx
Forgot to say the thread is called Theresa!!
Lx
Hi February Marie,
I was sorry to read your story. I wondered if you read the Thread, there are several of us mums all with sons with addictions.
We are all here to support each other.
Danman83 is a person in recovery, he offers good advice and is currently doing well.
I think until he admits he needs help, there’s little we can do until then.
Please look after your own health and well-being for the moment, confide in a close friend or just vent here.
The Icarus trust posts here, I believe they offer advice and support too.
For the moment take pleasure in the little things, maybe meditation to calm your anxiety.
Take care of you first and foremost.
Lx
Hi Nlnh
I replied to your previous post, so did other people, we’re all here to support each other.
Please seek support for yourself , you can’t do this on your own. Contact the Samaritans, or 111 if you’re in UK, as soon as possible.
Please be strong, people care about you the drugs are making you feel this way.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions I would hate to think he was trying to deal with his addictions on his own.
Please seek help NOW, you can turn your life around.
Thinking and praying for you.
Lx
Hi Nanny ger,
Welcome to the forum. I just posted on the Theresa thread, as there are several of us mums all with sons with addictions.
I was sad to read your story, thank you for sharing. I just wanted you to know that others care and want life to be better for you and your son.
I don’t have all the answers either, but the adfam homepage has support, also the Icarus trust offers advice and has counselling services i understand.
We all understand the heartbreak you are going through, hopefully we can be here for each other.
I used to get really upset when my son was using, it was like I was grieving for the son I used to have, if that makes sense.
Please stay strong and positive, seek advice and support for yourself in the meantime.
Take care, keep in touch read the stories on the Theresa thread you won’t feel alone.
Lx
Hi Everyone and welcome nanny here, thank you for your advice and support. Most of us on this threads have sons with addictions, all at different stages.
Thankfully my son is still doing well, over 4 months clean. I just keep praying that he keeps strong.
I think and pray for us and our sons daily.
Bump, the petition for “harsher sentences for drug dealers ” is through a group called 38 degrees.
I’m grateful for Adfam and this thread as I can’t share anything about my son, my family don’t know what we’ve been going through for years.
You are all such wonderful supportive, strong ladies and good caring mums. One day , in the not too distant future , we’ll get our sons back. In the meantime, we have to look after ourselves and the others in our family.
Take care and stay strong
Sending virtual hugs
Lxx
Hi Everyone and welcome nanny here, thank you for your advice and support. Most of us on this threads have sons with addictions, all at different stages.
Thankfully my son is still doing well, over 4 months clean. I just keep praying that he keeps strong.
I think and pray for us and our sons daily.
Bump, the petition for “harsher sentences for drug dealers ” is through a group called 38 degrees.
I’m grateful for Adfam and this thread as I can’t share anything about my son, my family don’t know what we’ve been going through for years.
You are all such wonderful supportive, strong ladies and good caring mums. One day , in the not too distant future , we’ll get our sons back. In the meantime, we have to look after ourselves and the others in our family.
Take care and stay strong
Sending virtual hugs
Lxx