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Yes, it’s a relief. It’s great to see him doing so well. I’m really proud of him as I know its not been easy for him.
Good luck for tomorrow, I’m sure you’ll do well.
Stay strong, believe in yourself you can do this , and I know you will be a great support to others .
Lx
Hi Danman83, welcome back,
I’m so pleased to hear that you are a month clean. You are always welcome here. It’s good to hear from people in recovery too.
You gave me some good advice for my son several months ago.
He is currently 90+ days clean from alcohol and cocaine.
He finally returned to AA and CA meetings, got another sponsor and has just finished his 12 steps program with him.
Congratulations again, keep up the good work and keep posting.
It’s good to hear some positive stuff!
Stay strong
Lxx
Jenny, I just noticed your post.
Sounds like your son too has settled down a bit. Its good he’s away from coke, such a dangerous drug. When my son relapsed a few months back, it was alcohol, but no cocaine thankfully, it was a blow but he managed to return to his AA guys. It’s good you’re seeing him daily for dinner, they.. and us, need that social thing.
Yes, be hopeful, he’ll get there,
Take care of yourself too, Jenny
Always here to chat
Lxx
Hi Debc
Thanks for your best wishes, Covid has a lot to answer for!
I’m sorry to hear that your son has slipped off the wagon a bit. I don’t doubt for a second that its the gf that’s triggered him, especially if she has her own issues.
The first time my son relapsed was after being 3 months clean, he let his totally-wrong-for-him ex gf into his life. He finally saw that she was dragging him down with her (he thought he was helping her).
He returned to the fellowship for a bit, relapses a couple of times, no cocaine just booze. Finally returned seriously to AA and CA again. To date he’s finished the steps, helping others now.
Complete abstinence from alcohol and people who could trigger him.
And a strong determination to get clean too i guess.
I want you know that it IS possible, I know he can slip, but for the moment I’m just thankful.
I think you were right to have it out with him, must’ve been hard for you. But like you said, it was maybe the shake he needed!
Stay strong, keep the faith
Always here for you and the other girls.
Lxx
A mother’s love is unconditional.
No doubt about it.
Keep on doing what you’re doing Bump, but look after yourself.
Lx
Sorry, I was censored there for a minute 😉
I still like to post regularly, sometimes its good to know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel and it can be done.
It ultimately falls to them to make their choices.
My son never cared for me ot my husband while he was using. He could see how upset my husband was when his mum (and his gran) passed in 2019. So unfeeling and completely selfish.
My son sent me a message – love the addict, but hate the addiction.
I guess your lad is in there somewhere. Although, it is difficult to love them them when they’re being disrespectful and aggressive to you.
Stay hopeful, and look after yourself as much as possible. Covid is crafty…you think you’re okay, start doing usual chores…and then you feel rubbish again! One step forward..etc
Keep posting, I consider you all my friends (even through our troubled sons)
Take care
Lx
I still like to post regularly, sometimes its good to know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel and it can be done.
It ultimately falls to them to make their choices.
My son never cared for me ot my husband while he was using. He could see how upset my husband was when his mum (and his gran) passed in 2019. So unfeeling and completely selfish.
My son sent me a message – love the addict, but hate the addiction.
I guess your lad is in there somewhere. Although, it is difficult to love them them when they’re being disrespectful and aggressive to you.
Stay hopeful, and look after yourself as much as possible. Covid is crafty…you think you’re okay, start doing usual chores…and bang, you feel rubbish again! One step forward..etc
Keep posting, I consider you all my friends (even through our troubled sons)
Take care
Lx
I still like to post regularly, sometimes its good to know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel and it can be done.
It ultimately falls to them ti make their choices.
My son never cared for me ot my husband while he was using. He could see how upset my husband was when his mum (and his gran) passed in 2019. So unfeeling and completely selfish.
My son sent me a message – love the addict, but hate the addiction.
I guess your lad is in there somewhere. Although, it is difficult to love them them when they’re being disrespectful and aggressive to you.
Stay hopeful, and look after yourself as much as possible. Covid is crafty…you think you’re okay, start doing usual chores…and bang, you feel crap again! One step forward..etc
Keep posting, I consider you all my friends (even through our troubled sons)
Take care
❤ Lx
I still like to post regularly, sometimes its good to know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel and it can be done.
It ultimately falls to them ti make their choices.
My son never cared for me ot my husband while he was using. He could see how upset my husband was when his mum (and his gran) passed in 2019. So unfeeling and completely selfish.
My son sent me a message – love the addict, but hate the addiction.
I guess your lad is in there somewhere. Although, it is difficult to love them them when they’re being disrespectful and aggressive to you.
Stay hopeful, and look after yourself as much as possible. Covid is crafty…you think you’re okay, start doing usual chores…and bang, you feel crap again! One step forward..etc
Keep posting, I consider you all my friends (even through our troubled sons)
Take care
❤ Lx
Hi Bump and Jem
I have also been thinking about everyone.
Bump- I’m sorry to hear that you caught Covid. Such a worry, as if you’re not exhausted enough with your emotional worry.
I caught it last March and now have got long Covid! The breathlessness and fatigue, I totally sympathise with you.
I hope you are on the mend soon. It affects different people in different ways.
Jem – You too, have a lot on your plate, I hope your mum is feel better, at least if you’re seeing her it will comfort you to know she’s being cared for properly.
It sounds like your sons have settled into some kind of normality , that suits them I guess. At least you know what they’re doing.
My son is doing well, 90 + days clean to date. The AA fellowship have been so supportive helped him through his 12 steps, I wish I could thank them.
It’s still an everyday battle for him, i know its not easy, but I’m proud of him for what he’s achieved so far…I’ll keep praying!
You ladies keep me sane, I’d like to think that our experiences are helping others here too.
Sending hugs
Lxx
Hi Debc,
Yes, it’s good to share a bit positivity and hope. I’m so proud, and pleased for him. I know its not been easy. Every day for a recovering addicts is a battle for them – so tough. He has wonderful support from his fellowship guys in the AA and CA groups. I pray every day for everyone here and all people who are affected by addictions. You can only do so much though, except offer words of support and comfort.
How are you doing Deb, and how is your son?
Lx
Hi whattodo
Welcome to the forum, I wanted you to know that you are not alone.
Everyone on this forum has a loved one with an addiction. There are also people in recovery offering support and advice. The homepage has support and Icarus trust posts here to.
Read the other threads, particularly the Theresa thread, there’s several of us mums all with sons who have addictions.
I think your son is in denial if he doesn’t think he has an issue. Most addicts won’t admit they have a problem or need help. It’s su h an evil drug which messes with their emotions, runs up debt and destroys lives and families.
It’s difficult as a mum to stand back and watch this. Unfortunately he has to admit he has an addiction and get support. AA and CA have online meetings, they are so supportive of each other.
My 28yr son has had alcohol and cocaine addictions for several years. The alcohol triggers the need for cocaine so he needs to abstain completely. Good news is, he’s over 90 clean. Not gonna lie, its been so, so hard for him, relapses happen, but it can be done. There are several success stories here too.
It’s difficult when there’s MH issues too, I think my son is OCD, everything he does It’s 100 %.
Try not to worry to much, take care of yourself or it will consume you.
Always here to chat
Lx
Hi Nlnh
Welcome to the forum. Im sorry to read your story but it’s a positive thing that you realise that you have a problem and you’re seeking help.
I want you to know that people care about you and want you to get well.
I’m the mother of a son who has alcohol and cocaine addictions. The alcohol triggers the need for cocaine. Then the drug messes with your head and it consumes you…..but only if you let it.
There is help and support on the homepage, also the Icarus trust posts here too. Please don’t feel alone in this, there are people who can help you.
My son reached out for help last year. He had a lot of debt, he was ill with worry, he too felt the way you are feeling.
He had to cut away from people who could influence him. He joined AA and CA meetings daily, doing the 12 step program, met some great people who all support each other, got a sponsor.
He watched videos of recovering addicts, did meditation to help with anxiety, let the doctor know what was happening in his life.
Not gonna lie, it’s been tough for him, he’s relapsed a few times, but this is normal. I’m proud to say he is currently 90 days clean. Feeling the best for years.
I hope there is someone close you can confide in, but if not, try the above support . All you need is faith hope, strength and determination. I believe you can do this. Read the other threads here there are many people in recovery offering advice and support.
Please don’t feel alone in this.
Always here to chat,
Lx
Hi Ty85,
I will do anything I can to support you. I have been thinking and praying for you and your family and hoping that you’re coping at this difficult time.
Take care
Lx