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Hi all,
Joanie- sorry to hear that you’re feeling poorly after your op. I agree with February, at least with your son doing so well, you can concentrate on your own recovery and recuperation.
I’m so pleased to hear he’s doing well- it makes such a difference not having to worry so much.
My son is a year into his recovery and for that I thank God!
He has his stresses and anxiety but his CA/AA coping strategies kick in to get him through the difficult days.
I think and pray for us all on this forum daily. Although we’re all at different stages with our loved ones, we still have the support of each other and for that I will always be eternally grateful to you all. I had you wonderful ladies when I had no one who could truly understood what addiction does to a family.
Thinking of you all and your loved ones on this thread. ❤️
Lx
La1986, hope you’re okay, read Danman83 advice. He’s been battling hard with this evil drug, as it can quite easily get a hold of your life and potentially destroy it.
Please read his advice and stay strong.
Take care ❤️
Lx
Thanks Dan, you have a good weekend too ????
Lx ❤️
Hi Dan great to hear that you’re doing so well! I always wonder how you’re doing and keep us all here in my prayers.
I’m doing well, when son is doing well- which he is thankfully.
Still has OCD and anxiety type issues (personally I think he has undiagnosed adhd!,) He’s battling through them , bless him.
He needs to move though – too many bad memories where he is.
All in all things have greatly improved, he still does his regular CA meetings- he needs to.
So pleased for you Dan, keep doing what you’re doing- have read Kulstar’s story? I really admire you guys, so strong so supportive.
Keep doin what you’re doin Dan!
Lx ❤️
Hi La1986
Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story.
It’s good that you’ve realised that this drug is affecting your mental health and causing anxiety.
You would be wise to stop now before it causes any further damage.
My 29yr son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, it’s been a living hell, but thankfully is in recovery- 1 Yr clean.
I would recommend that you click onto Share your Story, and read Kulstar”s story, or Jamesb or Danman83. These are all people in recovery offering support and advice.
They have helped me a great deal to see things from another perspective.
I wish you well with your future recovery, stay strong.
Lx ❤️
Kulstar, thank you for sharing your journey with us. Your story and your positivity made me emotional reading it.
My son is 29yr with alcohol and cocaine addictions. Thankfully has been clean for 1yr+.
You and Jamesb should be so proud of yourselves- I know from my son’s recovery experience, how hard it is for you guys.
My son nearly caved last week, he had a few things on his mind , and his anxiety levels just escalated. He had to be so strong to fight off his ” go to” instinct to use.
His sobriety has made him more sensitive to issues that he probably never noticed before.
I’m just as proud of you guys as I am of him, as you battle your addictions and help others too.
Keep posting and stay strong, we all look out for each other here.
Take care
Lx ❤️
Hi Kazza, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story here.
I’m sorry to read about your son’s addiction to alcohol and everything you’re going through.
It’s heartbreaking to watch your loved one destroying their lives and to be constantly worried and stressed with everything that comes with addiction.
I wanted you to know that there’s no need to feel alone in this nightmare.
The Adfam homepage offer advice and support, as do Drugfam and the Icarus trust. I , myself usually post on the Theresa thread, we are all mums with sons at varying stages in their addiction/recovery.
The ladies are so kind and supportive, and it’s nice to vent to others who understand what you’re going through.
Click above to ” share your story ” and then scroll down until you see Theresa. It’s a long thread as there’s many of us on it. Also, there are some people in recovery offering support and advice too, read Danman83 or Jamesb posts.
Please take time out for yourself, confide in someone close, look after your own health and well-being.
My son is 29yr and has alcohol and cocaine addictions. Thankfully a couple of years ago, he reached out for support and joined AA and CA groups. It’s been tough, but he’s currently over 1yr clean. It has to be their own decision to quit, you can’t make them do it. That’s why, in the meantime, you have to take of you and any other family members first and foremost.
Always hear to chat,
Stay strong ❤️
Lx
Hi Hello
Welcome to the forum. This is first step to recovery when you admit that you need help. This is a good start.
Next , you could seek out your local AA groups- they are so supportive and helpful- these guys will help you through your recovery. You don’t need to feel alone.
My son reached out for help with his addiction to alcohol and cocaine. He is currently 1yr clean.
Please seek help before this evil drug consumes your whole life.
Take care
Lx ❤️
Hi Just
Welcome to the forum, please stay strong, confide in someone who can support you.
If it’s cocaine, join CA groups or Narcotics Anonymous. These guys are so supportive and helpful. They totally understand as many are in recovery and know how you feel.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and thanks to them and and a whole lot of willpower, he’s over 1 year clean.
You can do this too Just. Read Danman83 and Jamesb posts, they are both guys in recovery who post here .
In the meantime, take care of yourself, the best you can.
Lx ❤️
Kate, always in my thoughts and prayers. I know this week will be difficult for you.
Please know that I’m thinking of you. ❤️
Sending much love
Lx
Hi Imagine, welcome to the forum and to this thread. Thank you for sharing your story, I’m sorry to read that your son’s addiction is causing you distress.
The mums here are all very supportive, and understand what you’re going through. Everyone is in the same boat, but at different stages in the addiction.
No one judges and there’s people to talk to when you think no one else will understand.
Drugfam and Icarus trust also offer counselling services.
There are also people in recovery offering support, read Danman83 or Jamesb posts.
Please look after yourself in the meantime, your son will have to seek support when he’s ready.
Try not to let his addiction consume you like it does him.
Sending love and strength,
Lx ❤️
God bless him, some people who are struggling with addiction probably think that this is the only way out.
At least he will be in a better place now, and out of the torment of addiction.
Please look after yourself at this sad and difficult time Cathey.
Lx ❤️
Hi Lou, thank you for your post. So happy to read your great news- you must be so proud of your son’s achievement in his battle with addiction.
My son has also reached his first year in recovery, I agree , you have to love them unconditionally, even though it’s tough sometimes ❤️
I think and pray for us all here daily and hope everyone is getting along the best they can in life.
Take care
Lx
Hi Cathey, I so sorry for your loss.
Please don’t feel guilty, I’m sure you did everything you could to help your boyfriend.
Addiction is so cruel- turns a kind and loving person into someone we don’t recognise any more.
I’m sure he knew that you cared for him , the addiction just takes over their every thought, word and action.
Perhaps you may benefit from contacting a bereavement counselling service.
Please look after yourself
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
Hi Dasey, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story here.
I felt I had to respond to you, as this story resonates with me and the way my son behaved while addicted to alcohol and cocaine. ( the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine)
I joined the Theresa thread here, who are all mums with sons with addictions. Everyone is so supportive and understanding. I was able to share my story with them when I felt I couldn’t talk to anyone I knew.
The adfam homepage offer advice and support also Drugfam and the Icarus trust posts here too.
One thing I’ve learned is that you cannot force them to seek help, it has to be THEIR decision.
Please take time out for yourself- this behaviour can consume a family. Please try to stay strong. Read Danman83 and Jamesb posts who are in recovery and offer great advice from their perspective.
My 29yr son reached out for help 2/3 yrs ago- through CA and AA groups, he is currently 1 yr free of drugs and alcohol. It’s been a rocky ride , and every day is a battle for them, but so worth it.
Take care Dasey, and stay strong.
Lx ❤️