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Hi Chloe,
I think we spoke before on another thread. I’m sorry to hear that your mum’s addiction isn’t any better.
I think when a person with addictions is lashing out at their loved ones, is because deep down they know they’re in the wrong and they are just deflecting it to you, to make you think you’re the one who’s wrong! Does that make sense? They’re basically pushing the blame on you when you are doing nothing except trying to help.
Have you contacted any of the support groups I suggested before? I think it’s maybe time to contact the Icarus trust or Drugfam, they support the family affected, not the person with addiction. They will give you advice and support and do not judge.
Your mum has to be the one to seek support from AA when she admits that alcohol is taking over her life.
I agree with Debc, you should confide in someone- please try Drugfam or Icarus trust.
Take care of yourself in the meantime as best you can Chloe.
Lx ❤️
Yeah, he still goes to his meetings regularly too, keeps in touch with the fellowship guys.
I think years of abuse has had an effect on his mental health. His coping strategies are better, thanks to stuff he’s learned from the Big Book.
He’s looking great though, and much healthier thankfully. All the hard work and effort is paying off – the CA groups are a Godsend.
He’d love to have a lady in his life but that’ll happen in It’s own time!
Hope all is well with you Dan – so pleased for you too ????
Lx ❤️
Hi all, click above where it says ” share your story ” in the dark blue.
Then scroll down until you see Theresa thread.
You will get used to it , and clicking onto each page.
Lx
Hi Dan, yep a year soon! So proud of him but relieved too.
It was grinding us down as a family. He still has moments of stress and anxiety but he getting better at pushing through it. Keeping busy and hobbies (like you say) definitely helps too.
So pleased for you too.
Lol liked the pun- he enjoys a different kind of Coke now instead!
Keep doin what you’re doin ????
Lx ❤️
Hi weegem,
If you click back to page 1 on this thread, Danman83 has listed the things he has done to get clean.
You get used to scrolling back and forward to read the pages- my so is almost a year clean now. He did the same as Danman83. So it definitely worth a try weegem.
Sending hugs ❤️
Lindyloo xx
Hi weegem, I’m glad you found the Theresa thread.
The mums here are all very supportive and understanding. No one judges, if you need to vent or seek advice.
I would still Google the Icarus Trust or Drugfam as they help families who have loved ones with addictions.
It’s a rollercoaster ride living with someone with addictions. You need to look after yourself and your mental health. You need to be strong to get through it.
Just wanted you to know that there’s no need to be alone in this nightmare of addiction.
Take care of yourself Weegem
Lindyloo xx
Hi all hope everyone and your lads are doing as well as can be expected.
I’m just making the thread more current so that Weegem can access it. Her son has cocaine addictions and is seeking advice and support.
Sending hugs to you all ❤️
Lx
I’ll get it updated so you can read the thread. It’s quite a long thread, but you’ll see you’re not alone.
You just click back to Share your Story above in the blue.
Lx
Hi Dan, son is doing well, almost a year clean now!
So pleased for you too Dan, 5 months…that’s brilliant. ????
Everyone here is so pleased to have your support and advice.
Sending virtual hugs
Lx
Hi weegem, welcome to the forum. Nearly everyone here has a loved one with addiction and some people in recovery offering support and advice.
My son is 29 and has been battling alcohol and cocaine addictions for 10+ years. I know how difficult it must be for you.
Nothing is your fault, although they will blame you for all of their problems. They become aggressive and nasty to all around them.
Until he wants help and support, you cannot force him to stop.
You have to look after yourself, tell someone close, share here or get more information from Drugfam, or Icarus Trust.
Always here to chat, also, if you scroll back a bit, there’s a thread called Theresa. There’s several of us mums with sons with addictions and they are so supportive and kind.
Take care weegem, ❤️
Lx
You’re welcome, we’re all here for each other. ❤️
This forum was a godsend to me when my son was struggling with addiction.
Take care, I wish you well.
Lx
Hi crmmna, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story.
It sounds to me that you recognise this addiction is taking control of your life and you want to stop.
If you scroll down to the heading Drugs, Alcohol and Mental Health- there’s a thread by Dadict. There are a few people in similar situations to yourself and they support each other.
I’m so glad that you have reached out for help. Narcotics Anonymous is a fellowship that could help you too.
Take care of yourself and stay strong.
Lx ❤️
Lovely words James
Look after yourself and stay strong lad.
Lx ❤️
You’re welcome Chloe ????
Yes it’s so hard to see them being taken over by addiction.
I felt I was grieving for the lad he used to be- I know exactly how you feel! It’s a horrible situation and you don’t deserve this.
Make sure you contact one of some of these support groups Chloe- you’ll feel that you have someone fighting your corner. It’s a lot for a young person like you to handle by yourself.
Yes, so proud of him. He’s been helping others too, looks so much better. He’s still not 100%, but a hell of a lot better than he was!
Thank you so much for your kind wishes I’ll keep you and your mum in my prayers- this also has got me through some difficult times.
Take care, keep in touch,
Lx ❤️
Forgot to mention, the Icarus Trust posts here too. They are a charity who help families of people who have addictions.
Google them and find out more.
Lx