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Hi Chloe,
I’m so sorry that you’re in this situation. It’s very frustrating as you try to help, but as you say, they are so locked into this battle they have with alcohol. It’s the addiction, it turns them into horrible, nasty people we don’t recognise any more. This truly isn’t your mum, it’s the addiction.
My son was the same, nothing was more important than his next drink or fix. Makes them selfish and mean .
Please contact one of the counselling services on this homepage or Drugfam. They should help, every case is different I suppose.
My son just needed to know we loved him , no matter what.
Ultimately, it’s down to them to make the changes Chloe .
In the meantime, find time for yourself when you are able. This is really important to avoid any more mental stress you don’t need.
I also want you to know there’s light at the end of the tunnel- my son is currently 11months clean after a really bad experience and he got support from AA and CA groups.
Your mum needs to want this for herself, first and foremost.
Take care of yourself, Chloe
Sending hugs
Lx ❤️
Hi Chloe, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one with addiction.
I’m sorry to read that your mum’s alcohol addiction is causing you mental health issues.
It’s a very stressful situation when living with someone with addiction. Is there someone close you can tell ? If not, the Adfam homepage offer advice and support/counselling. So do Drugfam.
From experience, ( my son has alcohol and cocaine addictions), I can say that , until your mum is ready to admit she needs help , it’s a tricky situation to try and get her to stop.
Please seek help and support for yourself Chloe, you need to look after yourself. Try Adfam or Drugfam, perhaps even speaking to your doctor put them in the picture about your situation.
Keep in touch here, people here are very supportive ❤️
Lx
Hi Joanie ,
Good to hear from you!
I’m glad that you’re feeling better after covid- still take it easy though.
I think you are wise to take a step back for the moment enjoy the peace and quiet.
I’ve been keeping us every day in my prayers, our boys need help whatever stage they’re in with their addiction.
Look after yourself Joanie
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
Hi Jamesb, I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I knew the right thing to say to you. I really admire you for the way you have fought your battle with addiction.
My son is 29, in recovery, 11 months. I know how hard this is for you both. My son told me it was always his “go to” when situations were difficult for him.
He still has moments when he’s struggling, but thankfully he has made some good friends in the CA fellowship and his sponsor is a great support. We’re here for him too, but the fellowship guys know what to say and do due to their experiences. I always seem to say the wrong thing and he gets upset with me for not “getting him”
I do hope you can speak to someone close James, or even a bereavement counselling service.
You’ve been through so much lad, please stay strong and keep in touch here. Danman83 is a good support and also in recovery.
Sending much love ❤️
Lx
Hi James
Beautiful words
I’m sure your folks would be very proud of you- you have turned your life around and helping others.
As a parent of a son in recovery, I couldn’t ask for any more than that.
Sending love and prayers ❤️
Lx
Hi Conor, welcome to the forum. Most people here have a loved one with addiction, people in recovery and people like yourself looking for support and advice.
You have already taken a step to recovery by admitting that your addiction is taking over- this in itself is a big step!
My son is 29yr and has alcohol and cocaine addictions, ( the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine).
He’s been addicted for 10+ years. We as a family, have been through a living hell.
Thankfully 18 months ago, it came to a head, and we said we’d support him as he was like yourself- struggling. Up to his eyes in debt, about to lose his job, flat, car, his family. His physical and mental health was suffering in a big way.
We agreed to help him with some of the debt, and compiled the rest which he paid back monthly.
He joined AA and CA meetings online and face to face. He got a sponsor, did the 12 step program and got clean. These fellowship guys are so supportive and understanding. Don’t get me wrong, it’s been a battle and he had a couple of relapses along the way. But I’m pleased to say he’s currently 11months clean.
Read Danman83 and Jamesb posts here, they are guys who post here and are in early recovery offering support and advice too
There’s help out there Conor, if you’re willing to take it.
I’m sure you’re a lovely lad, but this addiction is taking over your life.
Please seek help and support asap, let someone close know that you’re not okay.
Stay strong, only you can make this happen Conor.
Lx ❤️
Brilliant ???? you won’t regret it, I promise ❤️
Lx
Hi Guys, welcome to the forum.
Just been reading your thread, it sounds to me that you realise that this evil addictive, expensive, lifetaking drug is ruining your lives.
If this is the case, perhaps your ready to seek help through CA or NA groups.
It’s a good idea to stop drinking alcohol too, as this triggers the need for cocaine.
My son is a alcohol and cocaine addict , but thankfully, currently 11 months clean through the help and support of these groups.
Please seek help and support before this evil drug destroys your lives and your loved one’s lives.
Read Danman83 or Jamesb posts, these are guys in early recovery offering great advice.
Take care of yourselves,
Lx ❤️
..forgot to mention, it was my 29yr son I’m talking about..
Lx
Hi Hoffy, welcome to the forum. Thank you for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear that you are going through this difficult time with your daughter.
Debc has given you some great advice and i guess it depends where you stay for gp support.
He ended up getting great support from his AA and CA meetings.
It’s been a long and difficult journey but he’s currently 11months clean thanks to these guys and his sheer determination to change his life and make better choices.
It’s easier to help them when they themselves want to accept support and advice.
In the meantime, please look after yourself and your well being.
There’s light at the end of the tunnel, stay strong and have faith.
Sending hugs ❤️
Lx
P.S. welcome to the thread JB3 thank you for sharing your story with us.
Lx
Hi all, I’ve been reading everyone’s stories and wanted to know that I’m thinking and praying for us all here.
Please look after yourselves Joanie, February Marie, Jem and Ivy. It’s physically and mentally draining having a loved one with addiction, moreso your child.
We can only be there for them whether they’re still using, relapsed or in recovery. They still need to know we love them unconditionally, no matter how hard it is for us. Our boys are still there through the torment they are going through.
My son is still doing well thankfully, but his anxiety and ocd is up and down at the moment. I guess all the years of alcohol and cocaine has messed around with his head . But I thank God he’s come through the worst of it.
Please stay strong and know that I’m thinking of you and sending hugs and prayers ❤️
Lxx
Hi Dan, yes so pleased and very proud of him. He’s also helping others too, but knows when to take a step back as it can get overwhelming!
It’s a relief, that’s for sure! I’ll bet your mum is pleased for you too.
He can still get anxious and stressed about little things. I always make sure he’s eating well. You don’t want to crave when it’s only food your body needs.
Keep on doin what you’re doin Dan, you’re doing a great job! ????
Lx ❤️
Hi Suey, welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one with addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice.
Danman83 has already offered some great advice.
I joined the Theresa thread, if you scroll back after clicking ‘share your story ‘. There are several of us mums with sons with addictions. Everyone is so understanding and supportive and you feel that you’re not alone. I joined 2 years ago. My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine.
I’m happy to say that after joining AA and CA groups, and sheer strength and determination, he is over 10 months clean.
I wanted you to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. But it’s up to your son to admit that he’s struggling and needs support.
Please look after your own health and well-being in rhe meantime. Adfam homepage offer advice and support also Drugfam.
Take care ❤️
Lx
Hi February Marie, I’ve been thinking about you and your son.
I’m glad that your spending time together with each other, no matter how hard it is.
You’re doing everything you can to support him, telling him he’s loved, feeding him.
I remember the last time my son relapsed, it was a real bad one. I’ve never seen him so bad, he asked me to bring beer as he needed to taper. I felt bad at first, but I understand a bit more about alcoholism and how they need to do this.
Fortunately for him, this was the beginning of his recovery. He had a real fright. He said, he needed to feel loved, had no energy, but as we were supplying his food daily- it built up strength gradually.
It’s so hard for them February Marie, and difficult for us to understand what they’re going through. They have to face their demons without drink, it’s a scary time for them. This is when they need to be so strong.
It was at this point my son started his AA and CA meetings again. The support from these guys is fantastic.
I hope and pray that your son finds this inner strength to fight this battle. Please look after yourself too my friend. I keep us all here in my daily thoughts and prayers.
Sending you much love ❤️
Lx