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Sorry for confusion..Maz brother works in a barbers. But I’m sure you’ll find work again when you’re ready.
Lx
Hi Stanbhoy ,welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story here.
I agree with Maz, you have taken the first difficult step by admitting you have a problem and want support. That’s big step in the right direction!
My 29 yr son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, the alcohol triggers the need for cocaine. He reached out for help a couple of years ago. He joined AA and CA groups and attends regular meetings. The fellowship guys are so supportive and understand what you’re going through. You work a 12 step program with a sponsor, and someone is always there for you .
I’m proud to say that he is currently 10 months clean. He initially had some relapses, and been through some difficult times, but he says his meetings are his medicine.
You can get through this my friend, but you need the support from these groups. You can get through this, get back to your job in a barbers and live your life again. Your family will be so happy to see you free from this evil drug, it will be so worth it, but first and foremost, do it for you.
Read Jamesb or Danman83 posts, they are guys in early recovery, just scroll back a bit.
Stay strong
Lx ❤️
Hi February Marie, I’ve just read your text with tears in my eyes.
I feel so sad that this has happened to your son and how
this evil addiction is affecting both your lives.
I can only agree with Joanie by saying that you love your son, you are caring and you can only do what you can do. We know that ultimately it’s down to them and the choices they make.
It must have been really upsetting and scary to see your son like that. I know my son has come very close to being like that when he was on his own and drinking and using. I pray every day that he continues to get
the strength to fight this battle with addiction.
I keep us all here in my thoughts and prayers daily.
Please look after yourself February, you too Joanie and stay strong.
Sending much love ❤️
Lx
Hi Jamesb
So sorry to hear you’re struggling, I know from my son’s experience how hard it is to deal with sad or difficult situations while you are in recovery.
Perhaps you could share this with someone close to help you through? The fellowship guys are so supportive in times of need, I know they’ve helped my son through some difficult times in his recovery.
I would say it’s normal to still want to grieve, perhaps a bereavement counselling service may help you.
Please stay strong, seek support and look after yourself- you have been so supportive to others here, don’t be afraid to seek support if you need it.
My son is your age, I’d like to think he’d seek support if he was in your situation, I wouldn’t want him being upset or struggling. I know they would be so proud of what you have achieved so far. ❤️
Stay strong lad,
I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Lx
Hi Joanie , thank you for sharing this news. You must be so pleased with your son’s progress and also relieved that you can return to some sort of normality again.
Keeping us and our sons in my thoughts and prayers always ????
Kate – I think of you often, sending you much love ❤️
Lx
Hi Whymee, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story and for being so honest.
Congratulations on being 7 days sober! I know from my son’s experience how hard it is in early recovery. He had to completely abstain from alcohol as it triggers the need for cocaine.
He has had to avoid his usual group of Friends as this is a trigger also. The guys who he has met through CA and AA groups are really supportive. They organise weekend events and socialise . It’s just training the brain to a newer, healthier way of living- a new lifestyle choice.
My son has undiagnosed ocd, everything he does it’s 100%. The doc said he could get any counselling until he was 6 months clean. But then there’s a long waiting list unfortunately. I think he has undiagnosed adhd too.
It certainly explains a lot of his rash decisions and disorganisation, accidents in cars etc. and addictions.
I’m sure you’ll find love again and be happy- just be strong, seek support to get through this time.
Take care
Lx
Hi Christy, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story.
So sorry to hear about your dad’s addiction and how it’s affecting you and the family. Such a lot for you to cope with if you’re also supporting your mum and sister. I wish I had all the answers for you.
The adfam homepage have counselling support as do the Icarus trust, and Drugfam.
Please take care of your own health and mental well-being at this stressful time. Find time for you. ❤️
Lx
Hi LookingD,
Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story with us.
By admitting that you think you may have an addiction to alcohol, this is a first step to recovery.
Drinking daily and hiding the evidence – is a sign that you know this isn’t normal.
If you truly want to beat this thing, before it gets way out of hand, I think you would benefit from joining an AA group.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions and this is the only thing that works for him.
Face to face or online meetings regularly, starting the 12step program with a sponsor- the fellowship guys are so supportive and understanding. They’ve all been there so they know the script.
My son is currently 9 months free of alcohol and cocaine.
It was difficult especially at the beginning, but as long as you have the strength and determination to fight it.
Keep in touch here,
Stay strong,
Lx ❤️
Hi Lou, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story with us. Everyone here has a loved one with an addiction.
Reading your story it is clear that you love your partner, you wouldn’t be putting up with it all if you didn’t!
It’s very sad that this evil drug can consume someone’s life and desensitise them to everything and everyone around them. Cocaine is highly addictive and makes them craving for more , and more is never enough. The Adhd is also an issue as I’ve read that there is a strong connection between it and addiction. Something to do with the dopamine levels in the brain.
I recognise the cycle as my son has alcohol and cocaine addictions. The alcohol triggers the need for cocaine.
He is thankfully 9 months clean.
About 2 years ago, he was about to lose everything, his job, his flat, car, us – his family. He admitted he had addiction and went to CA and AA meetings.
He had a few relapses in this time. He had to stop drinking, and stop seeing friends who drink an use.
Every day is a battle for him. But it is easier to support them when they are trying to stop
It’s a case of, Love the Addict, but hate the Addiction. He needed to know that he was loved through it all.
It’s your call here Lou, if you think you can support him through this nightmare. Or give him space to realise he has an issue and wants to seek help for himself. Either way , nothing will change until he himself makes this choice to change. Drugfam and Adfam homepage offer counselling and advice too. You have to take care of you, first and foremost.
I wish you well whatever you choose to do.
Lx ❤️
Thank you Mammy. Yes so proud of him. It’s been tough – every day is a battle especially at the beginning. He said the meetings are his medicine, needs to go regularly. Stay away from alcohol, and mates who drink and use, these are triggers to use.
It’s a whole new life for them.
Worth it in the end though.
Lx
The Theresa thread was a godsend to me when I couldn’t talk to any of my family or friends about my son’s addiction.
Son is 9 months clean, I thank God every day, pray for us all here and our loved ones’ recoveries.
Stay strong Mammy, you’ll get through this.
Lx
Hi Mammy, I’m so sorry to read your story. I wish I had all the answers but I wanted to know I’m thinking of you and your family.
This drug is so evil so addictive it turns our loved ones into people we don’t recognise any more. It takes their souls, it’s not them, it’s the addiction. Deep down, they’re in there, they still love you, but the need for this mistress that is cocaine is greater.
Have you read Jamesb and Danman83 posts here? They are people in recovery telling it from the other side.
For the moment, Mammy, look after yourself and your kids. He has made his choice, I pray that he comes round his senses and seeks help. When he does this, it’s easier to support them.
Adfam homepage, Icarus trust and Drugfam all offer counselling if you need support and advice for yourself.
Sending you much love ❤️
Lx
Yep, my son is currently in early recovery. He has cocaine and alcohol addictions. He definitely has undiagnosed ocd, does everything 100%- gambling, smoking, drinking, drugs (probably sex too I imagine!)
He reached out for support 2 years ago, when he was about to loose everything. He joined AA and CA groups, did the 12 steps program with a sponsor. The fellowship guys are so supportive. There are meetings 24/7 online , face to face etc. It’s a daily battle for him, but he says the meetings are his medicine. Currently 9 mths clean thank God.
Read Danman83 posts, or Jamesb, they are in recovery offering support and advice too.
Stay strong, or this drug will consume you until you’re a shell of yourself.
Take care
Lx ❤️
Hi Ps,
Thank you for sharing your story and recognising that this evil drug can ruin your life.
I have read so much on the connection between AdHd and addiction issues. Its something to do with the dopamine levels in your brain.
I hope you get the support and advice you need.
Take care and stay strong,
Lx ❤️
Hi Lady, thank you for sharing your story. After 7 years you would think you would know a person – right?
Do you have children- are you planning to? Do you think this is a healthy, nurturing environment to raise them?
I realise it must be difficult, as you must love this man when he’s sober. There are so many stories here from wives and girlfriends who are in similar situations.
I guess what I’m saying is Lady that only you can decide if this is the future you want together.
If you truly want to spend your life with him, I think he needs to commit himself to joining AA, get sober , and he needs to be the one to recognise that he has an addiction to alcohol and seek support to stop drinking.
I wish you well – whatever choice you make Lady.
Lx