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Oh meant to add he came back within the hour …ringing the doorbell ???? at least he’s still not out wandering the streets . I presume he went out to get more . He is now in a fairly comatose state . No point speaking to him when like this he doesn’t really respond

[Lozzy80]

Hi Kulstar

Firstly – that’s amazing that you are now in recovery hope you continue to work on yourself, never let your guard down ..keep doing whatever it is that I’d keeping you clean

Thank you for your honest advice  most appreciated. What did the police do ? Were you arrested? What was the consequences?

I’m so scared to call the police , it will be career ending for my husband

He hasn’t been as bad as this since 4 years ago, I walked out. He got his act together for a bit , it was a really long hard rd , got help for his mental health but still continued to use just on a more modest (for him) basis.

He was making such an effort with me, and my family recently too.. seemed to be best he had been in a long time … Now this massive crash

 

 

 

 

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Its not selfish. He has totally crossed your boundaries and brought dsnger into your home so the police was the last resort , you did what you had to do to keep yourself self.

Is there anyone you can contact , a family member or friend ? You sound like you have hit beyond crisis point and you need to get help …there is Samaritans 116 123

Hope you stay safe xx

 

 

[Lozzy80]

To help me sleep I listen to podcasts … It works most the time now unless my anxiety is sky high then nothing seems to help I just have to wait it out til about 4 days of no sleep I end up passing out !

[Lozzy80]

This all sounds so familiar , I too have left my husband before on far more serious circs to be fair…but after several months Id even gone to the solicitors and was getting the divorce sorted…of course first thing he did was sell the wedding rings …stupidly I put my rose tinted glasses on and took him back..that was the last time I was deadly serious about leaving him , 4 yrs ago now…

I am a people pleaser type of person …helping others …and it’s become my undoing. I find anti depressants do nothing for insomnia sadly …hope Dr can give you some advice.

 

[Lozzy80]

I feel your pain .. it’s heart wrenching . I’ve left my husband tonight..

Addiction is so cruel and causes so much pain …I too keep asking why? Why can he not fight for us , but addiction takes over and it doesn’t make sense

Clinging on to hope that one day soon …they will get clean and stay clean. I see friends on Facebook etc who have come through the other side.. I feel a pang of jealousy, why can’t that be him?

So I’m so sorry…and I do understand to some degree what you are going through … Do you have anyone you can turn to , and be with you right now? If the lack of sleep continues please see your doctor …  Hang in there… And take it hour by hour at the moment… Baby steps..be kind to yourself

[Lozzy80]

Hi Jessie your husband is bang out of order and not because of his addiction. He is violent and abusive and does not deserve you 🙁 please have faith in yourself you know deep down that twisting upside down feeling in your stomach ? Do you get that around him , even if it’s not often , that’s your instinct kicking in to tell you you know it’s not good and to get away . Please don’t care what his family think , they of course will take his side. They are not in the relationship , it’s you and him ..and this is detrimental to you …you don’t need to put yourself through any more of his crap you have suffered enough
<p style=”text-align: center;”>Please have a search for womens aid forum to get support there , or contact your local centre  ..they have been there and will know how to help you. Please take care of yourself.</p>
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Lozzy80]

<p style=”text-align: left;”>Wow Lizzie you are so so strong. The road ahead will be tough in terms of keeping your resolve and not take him back… Sorry I am saying this without knowing anything other than what you have shared here but it’s highly likely your partner will try to win you back…try not to feel sorry for him or think its only you who can save him, you cannot. They can only do this themselves and its the most horrendous agonising heart wrenching thing for us to have to walk away whilst they self destruct.</p>
I really hope your ex makes a full recovery, but please continue as you are putting you and your daughter first at all times. If you ever feel yourself slipping back don’t worry talk to your friends and family, I so wish I could be as open with mine but sadly they take a very strict view so I’ve kept my husbands cocaine addiction hidden for years… I did leave him but I took him back, whilst there’s been some good times it’s slowly spiralled back to the bad times and I regret my decision so much now. So please, take it from me, you are doing the absolutely right thing xx

 

 

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