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Happy Mother’s Day (uk) to my fellow Mammy’s we’ve made it this far lasses ????❤️????❤️

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Hi lovely you are not alone on here I’ve been left alone with my children for 8 months by my husband of 24 years , I too had no idea he was a coke addict he’s left us with nothing I know how gut wrenching it is I’m still in shock you and your son come first now I’ve only just started doing this and it helps a little my world still doesn’t feel like I’m in it to be honest I had no say in this and it hurts a lot x stay in touch ????

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Happy Mother’s Day ladies ????❤️

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Hi I’m so sorry you had to go back to that.

Yes it is for drugs as he refused the test last week so I’m not letting him

Take my boys out x. I’ve gave him

Another chance this week if he refuses Sunday again im making the call to social services as if something happens to my boys in his care and it comes out I knew about the coke I’d be prosecuted for failing to protect them , they don’t think of this , I hope there is a property for you to bid on and you see a tiny light at this awful tunnel , wish I could help all of us living this nightmare I really do x

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I’m right with you x I still love my husband but even if right now he was focused on fully getting better I’d support it for my kids the most but what he’s done is unforgivable I know I could never forgive

or forget it but I still shed t was tears for

the man I love and the future we could have had x

My husband threatened a lawyer last week for visits etc then backed down real quick when he realised everthing would be exposed x plus what was he going to pay for one with , peanuts ???? ????

My worse fear was ss but my friend is actually a Social worker and she said they would do a wellness check and make an order against him meaning he would have to undergo court testing etc , I’m not there yet neither but it’s good to know it is an option if things become worse for you and the kids x

I’m scared for the future with the rising living costs etc before this we were pretty comfortable with money I’m

Good at budgeting but how can you budget money if there is no money x

I really hope one day we are all settled and genuinely happy most days that’s way off x

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I am so sorry you are dealing with that , one thing with mine is that he left so I don’t have to endure that it sounds like the coke is making his mh spiral badly and I so get what you mean about them ‘forgetting’ to pay bills mine has had his car in pounded due to not paying tax yet swears he payed it ???? we know different tho eh x

I really hope you get a property soon can you not tell them the reason why you want to move ? Your fleeing a potentially dangerous situation, i know if you are anything like me you might be embarrassed doing this , but I tell you what since I have been the amount of help I’ve had has been brilliant this isn’t our doing we have nothing to feel shameful about x

My council are thinking of paying all my rent and me staying here as there is nothing suitable for me with my sons disability so I’m still stuck in limbo I will feel better once I’m sorted either here or moved I feel like my life is on hold until then , then there’s the money side of it I’m sick of struggling through his stupidity x

I think even with rehab and ca it’s like any other addiction you have to want to quit doesn’t seem like they are there yet , what it’s going to take I’ll ever know because he’s lost everything x

I take day by day sometimes hour by hour it’s a shitty existence really but we have to push through for our kids . I still wake up most days and think yip this really is my life now ???? I just want to go back to before all this but that won’t ever happen x

Keep in touch ❤️❤️ Sending love and hugs xx

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Hi I’m

So sorry to hear about your dad but pleased he is accepting help , the hospital will put together a plan of action for the next steps , of course be there for your family but also take some time for yourself too , addiction spreads through the whole family and the results are devastating I wish you all well ❤️

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Hi I’m really sorry you are also going through this , it can feel a very lonely existence at times , my husband refuses to a knowledge his addiction I am in your position we can’t make them admit they need help or make them

Accepts help it’s extremely frustrating I know but it’s out of our control , trying js making myself Ill , you can only encourage him to seek help and try and look after yourself as much as possible do his family no is there anyone you confide in to help you with some emotional support ?

I’m

Married with kids so I have to put them

First , there will come a time when you yourself will realise that you have to put you first , if he’s doesn’t get better you could be facing years and years of this and that is no life x

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Hi to everyone in this journey of hell , Paul I’m like you with my husband been married 24 years he’s just a different person now these last few months have been torture the coke is the devil I’ve got ptsd off the trauma of it all , he blames me constantly they are transferring there guilt on to us , look up codependency I got the bill massively on this , I love and adore my husband but he’s not going to ever be that man again unfollowed, this new man has no money for our kids no food for our children it’s just heartbreaking x. To the young girls on here honestly get out while you can they don’t change unless they want to and even then relapses are part of it , run don’t look back x

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How are you getting on xx

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Mines the Sunday so I feel the week has went to pot already and it’s my sons birthday tmrw he said he’d drop presents in tomorrow, hmm very much doubt that x

I’m so sorry we are all in this position we had no say in the matter but we here dealing with it daily , all because off some disgusting over priced white poison ☠️ hate seeing it glorified in movies the devastation it reeks on families is horrendous, stay strong we too shall make it through another week of Groundhog Day ❤️????❤️????

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I’m just so disappointed it’s came to this he’s already put us through 7 months of hell and him being so cocky about court has threw me , he’s like a stranger standing in front of me I had no choice of where he’s put us and he doesn’t even care x how’s things going for you

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Hi no I was doing them myself before visits to avoid the court route but seems like that’s the only option now , he’s making out im to blame for everything and he’s innocent why can’t he see his mistakes and not be horrified ?

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Todays update , refused test said he doesn’t have to do anything for me now says he’s going to do it through the courts so he doesn’t have to see me again , he genuinely thinks I’m the one in the wrong surely this isn’t natural behaviour ?

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Hi there is a great thread called Theresa on here it’s full of mams with addict children x I’d just like to say what a fabulous mam you are taking custody of your grandchildren, addiction in families is heartbreaking and I find us the non users are often left behind in it all x

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