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Hi blue butterfly, its really important you tell your family, they probably already suspect anyway. Telling them will give you someone to speak too when you need to let steam off, I dont know how
w you have held it together alone. Perhaps telling your family will offer some respite from time to time. Its nothing to be ashamed of and you will feel much better if you do. My family know and they are very understanding. Shazb has really turned her life around, I believe one day her children will return to her just like she returned to them. A little tough love does nobody harm. My partner emptied dishwasher today and mowed the grass, a massive achievement. He has 2 days left of the alcohol tablets then basically he has none, not sure how the weekend is going to be, but im hoping its calm, not abusive and doesnt leave another bad memory. Ive been made redundant so apart from living like this, I, also trying to find another job to keep our home. There are days when its all too much and I could just simply pack up and I too have days where I could turn to the drink. My love for my children restrains me from doing so. Ifshazb can turn things around there is hope for us and our families. Talk to a family member and if not them tell your doctor, good luck, I hope one day she wakes up and sees your pain and I hope that comes sooner than later, take careHi shazb
thank you for your comments, my partner too smokes cannabis daily and is very paranoid at almost everything. If you could offer 1 single piece of advice to us families who are desperately trying to help a loved one, what would it be?
do you think we are better to walk away, since many of us have tolerated abuse formany years. His abuse when he needs a drink makes me feel very depressed. I must say I am very proud that you found a way back but feel for you now having to distance yourself from your son. Put your efforts into the younger two and hopefully things will work out for you.Blue butterfly, please tell your doctor what life is like at home, professionals are more understanding to the reality of life nowadays and they will give you different avenues of support. Much of what you say is identical to what im experiencing and what many others are experiencing. Ive told myself this time is the last hand of support I will be giving. Ask her to refer herself for help, its a step forward if she does. Make sure you attend with her if possible. I went along to an appointment with my partner 2 years ago and I told the doctor is situation. It upset my partner but it probably saved his life, I hope somehow you get the support you need since you cant support your partner if your breaking down too, good luck and you take care of yourself too.
It’s so sad when someone you love goes into self destruct, my children’s father is in self destruct and it’s heartbreaking to watch and not know how to help. I live with the same problem my partners now on the medication to help him off drink but he’s still drinking, forgetful, angry, abusive, I know that energy you say you are using, trying to keep them alive, it’s heart breaking. Im still looking for a solution and I’ve been looking for 20 years, my children will be fortunate if they spend Xmas 2015 with him. He’s in self destruct. You need to take care of yourself and ask for help from the professionals, I hope things work out for you both