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Hi Tara b
I am currently in the same situation as you, 20 years together 2 kids , had a really good marriage, he was a brilliant husband & dad, he has completely changed left 3 months ago hardly bothers with me or the kids , but has time to drink and go to football matches , can I ask how are you now , I have good days and bad days, did you feel like your husband was emotionally starving you, I thought my husband was depressed and sick also , has he changed his behaviour or stopped ? Mine is in denial denies everything and lies , never would he do that , I hope you are feeling better
Can someone please help me my husband left me and 2 kids 11 weeks ago, I discovered he is a cocaine addict, he acts so normal and happy as if he has done nothing wrong , he is doing all the stuff he hated drinking in bars , not bothering with me or the children, will he ever snap out of it , ? I think he is really hard on it for about a year, starting acting really different from dec, I think he thought I was going to catch him, we where best friends and did everything together, he is so cocky and acts funny and sings when we see him the odd time , ???? I knew something was wrong but didn’t know it was cocaine, he lies and denies everything,
Hello, I am in exactly the same position, my husband changed, then left 10 weeks ago I know he has been abusing cocaine all came out about 2 weeks after he left , he denies it, said he has but the same as Everyone else, he is starting to not bother with me or his 2 children, complete opposite of what he was , is there any change in your husbands?, I wish everyday he would wake up, we had a great relationship been together 19+ years, we where best friends , this is a horror of a drug , hope you ladies are doing good, look after yourself x
Hi James, I’m sorry to hear of your struggles, I am currently in the position your partner has been in, my husband left me and his 2 kids 10 weeks ago, he was a brilliant father & husband , his behaviour the last 6/7 months has been off, I felt something was wrong but had no idea it was cocaine , he was happy to let me believe he didn’t love me , I couldn’t understand as we where so close , best friends, it has all come to light now he has been using for about 4 years , I think heavy from June , & off the rails from nov/ dec, he won’t admit nothing denies everything, he knows I know now so has admitted he takes it the same as everyone else, I knew he took it the odd time , I had no idea until this last 6 weeks the havoc this stuff does to peoples life , can I ask you if he will ever realise about his family? & he is so cold, he is completely different, I really hope you your partner and daughter can be a family again???? talking to a few people I think I understand how hard it is to go off, be proud of yourself for that keep your daughter in your head every day, cos I bet she loves her daddy ???????? he told me he does love me but I’m better off without him, I was starting to ask questions about money & the long periods in the bathroom, my friends have a suspicion but didn’t want to bring it up, he was always complaining he was sick , I thought he was genuinely sick and maybe a bit run down , ????
Hello, yes he has gone 10 weeks , I knew for months something wasn’t rite, he said he didn’t know if he was happy , I respected his decision I would never be anyone’s jailer , I was absolutely devastated as we have been together nearly 20 years had a brilliant marriage (a bad 6 months) then all the cocaine abuse came to light , I was in a much denial as him until I found this sight I have evidence, & what people have told me about him there is no way he can deny it now but he does , I don’t know him anymore , I see now I am probably one of the lucky ones that he left , I think he thought I was gonny catch him, it was only a matter of time , he knows I know, I don’t contact him he can do what he wants now , the emotional abuse that was happening I thought I was doing it to myself , but I know I was craving his attention, as he emotionally starved me , we had a very close relationship, , it really is the devil food , I hope u are doing well, love yourself ????????
Why did you think it was ok to sit in our home with our children & get addicted to cocaine?
I understand now that you probably didn’t even know it was happening but you are a smart man , you have devastated are lives and you don’t seem to care , I have asked you for the truth , you even lie when I have evidence, I wish you would snap out of it you have so much to lose,
I have lost my husband / Bestfriend
They girls have lost their daddy ( they see and hear from u more than me but not enough)
I try to hate you for what you have done but it’s hardMy husband has dabbled in cocaine for years , I thought it was harmless and not very often , (I have learned the hard way it’s far from harmless) this past 5/6 months he has been avoiding me in the house ,spending a lot of time in the bathroom & in his small office (doing paperwork) , we have been together 19 1/2 years will be married 10 in August, we have 2 daughters , we had a great marriage & friendship, we done everything together, if one was away from home we missed each other , I knew something was wrong I just didn’t know what it was , I felt so low , craving his attention, my oldest daughter said she felt the same , we had a massive fall out 12 weeks ago then another one 10 weeks ago cos I asked him to get out of bed at 4.40pm on a Sunday afternoon, he had a constant runny nose and always complaining about being sick leaving work, sweating , when I sat him down 10 weeks ago to see what was wrong he said he didn’t know if he was happy , and wanted time to see if he could be happier on his own , I respected his wishes , I went to stay with my mum cos he had no where to go, he was happy to let me think this was the case, I have learned from a lot of people he is a known cocaine user , he has got so selfish only thinks about himself but does show me kindness , he has never been violent, I just feel I don’t know him anymore what I have had to do this last 10 weeks I don’t know how I done it , I’m back in my own home with my 2 daughters , he is at his elderly parents, I think he has been on it hard for about 18 weeks , he is a completely different person, he told me he didn’t love me , then said I do love you but you are better off without me , I pray he will snap out of it , has anyone had a husband who has seen what devastation they have caused and wake up, I have uncovered a lot of behaviour I never thought he would do I am shocked and cocaine consumes my mind morning noon & night , we don’t hear from him very often maybe once a week , it’s so annoying cos he looks so normal and seems to be having a grand time to himself