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It’s totally not your fault! Your partner has the issue problem with drugs, I really do feel for you. Unless your partner wants to get off the drugs then you will carry on living this life unless he sees what he is doing. Sorry if that sounds really blunt, you are your children deserve a lot more than this.
Take care x
So sorry to hear what happened to your mum. I would try and ask for help through bereavement counselling, talk to family or friends and if that’s not possible then there are lots out there online that you can talk to about your drinking and everything else that you are dealing with.
The key to this is to start talking, its better to be out of your mind than all stored up there. Whysup on social media might be a good start.
Good luck
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Can relate to what you are going through when you say you feel like you have failed him. I’ve had to leave my partner because of his drinking and I have teenage child to think of as well so I feel like I have failed him by leaving when he needs me too as he lost his Dad 6 months ago, but hes turned into an alcoholic 🙁
I do feel for you, you have to put yourself and your child first which I understand is very hard when you love someone. Remember time is a healer x
Hi, my one good advice for you is do not have a child with him. His drinking isn’t going to change because you have a child together, more than likely it will get worse as having a baby is stressful at the start
I feel for you I really do but do you want to bring a child up around that ?
Take care x
Hi so sorry you are going through this and what you went through with your husband.
I would use this time hes in rehab to get your confidence back and do things for you to make yourself feel better from all this stress.
When your husband is due out of rehab I would set boundaries of what you want, just make sure you keep to them.
I hope your husband can sort his drug problem out for the sake of your marriage.
Clear your mind then start to think about what you really want in life.
Take care x x
Just like to say you sound bloody amazing! Well done to you for putting yourself and your children first and making a better life for yourself.
I hope it all works out for you and your children.
My story is a little bit different with my partner, I’m really hoping one day soon he can get out of his depressive state of mind from losing his Dad last year, it’s so scary to think of in the last 6 months from drinking exclusively can take hold of your life, very sad and hard to see.
Good luck with everything 🙂 x x
I can’t imagine what that must feel like to know your family feels that way about your children, I have a daughter so I know I would be heartbroken. So sorry that’s happening, of course you will love your children they are your children and that’s what mums do! 🙂
my partners best friend has kinda given up hope on him getting off the drink and says he’s being selfish, it’s an illness with depression and having to grieve for his Dad.
I do have support but it’s nice to connect with others that are going through similar situations.
Always here for a chat, look after yourself x x
My heart goes out to you. I’ve too thought about my partners funeral how awful is that. He’s a drinker only 39 started drinking more when his dad passed away last year, he keeps saying he wants change but nothing has come of it yet because he’s so depressed and the drink has a hold of him too much, it’s an awful awful disease.
Keep strong x
Well done to your boyfriend to reaching out for help and taken that step. It’s a massive step for him!
I wish my partner would do this for his drinking
Hun your fela is still there it’s just hidden by his addiction
Stay strong for you and your babies xx
When you love someone it’s very hard to walk away even when you know deep down it’s what you should do. It’s very easy for others to give advice but unless you’re in that position they can easily say walk away.
Only you can decide what to do x
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Whenever my partner would feel like that I would try and talk to him about thinking just one positive thought, happy memory or time with family and friends or even looking on social media for inspiration for positivity.
Hope this will help a little and remember to feel proud of the days you have done well on
Reading what you’ve just said I can totally relate to you, I had to leave as my partners drinking has gotten out of control, I have a teenage daughter so wasn’t a happy environment for her. Only differences between us is I’m still in contact with my partner, it’s starting to have an effect on my mental health as he calls me when he’s had a drink crying asking for help but I or his family can’t do anything as he has to want the help from rehab. This weekend was very hard but I’m now wondering if I should take an even further step away from him as I can’t let it effect my mental wellbeing. Its really hard!
I hope you are coping as well as you can be x x
I’ve just come across this forum. Reading what you have written is a mirror image of my life apart from I’m only 36 and my partner is 39. My partner started drinking more to cope with his Dad dying of cancer last year. From last October it’s been a slippery slope for him. A month ago I had to move out of our family home with my teenage daughter as his drinking has gotten so bad now and his mental health suffers so badly from his drinking, its heartbreaking to see someone you love do this to themselves, and there is nothing you can do, that’s one of the hardest parts about all of this.
I hope you are well and happy xx