[recoveringslowly]

hi there

I am a recovering addict. I have two grown daughters. I managed to, just about, combine addiction and parenting, although needless to say I should have done better. they both deserve better than me.

I was lucky. I was what is known as a (barely) functioning addict. I did, however, spend a very long time at rock bottom. eating out of bins rock bottom. stealing rock bottom.

your dad is very lucky to have you. I have to say, sadly, that I think I echo the earlier advice. it wasn’t until my father cut me off – literally stopped opening the door or answering the phone, that I made a decision. my mother had already done the same.

they both told me they loved me. and I knew it was true, although I do remember feeling very hard done by. I walked away, felt sorry for myself for a bit, then sought real help.

if I were to advise I would say – your dad needs you to be strong. talk to him. explain why you are doing this. give him the details of some places that might help, but leave it to him to reach out to them. it will have value to him if he does it for himself.

Please understand I am not trained, or intelligent enough to have understood my own problems. this is only one perspective. what I can say with surety is you are unlikely to help by enabling him.

I registered only to reply to you. I hope it helps. I will pray for your dad.

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